Hello readers,

Today this might be a long post so please bear with me and as always please keep in mind that I’m sure there will be many typos, but I’ve been busy recently. (If I hadn’t been this post would have been nearly a week ago)

So recently I became aware of the kerfuffle that had arisen from Muslim Bushido’s recent post that called out a certain blog and her recent posts.  (A post by Muslim Bushido that I agree with completely and found to be very illumination, (especially when I had my own reservations about certain things on the blog she was talking about) (If you notice I don’t link that particular blog anymore)


On this other blog there have been many ruminations that BWE writers (Evia, Halima, Faith, and Khadija) a bunch of women who simply like to spend their time creating posts that undermine the *thriving* black “community”. Not only are BWE writers sabotaging and turning their backs on the black community that has always been there for black women but the women who find that their views align with said writers are simply young, misguided women who need answers from a very reliable middle aged woman, are too stupid to make wise decisions on their own, or a simply selfish, grubby, white cock hungry women deluded into believing that black women who support or believe BWE writers who themselves thing are going to be “saved by white men”.  Because of course BWE is only summed up to white **ck.  (Although I have to believe the only problem with some isn’t the supposed **ck riding, which we all know it isn’t actually occurring , but the fact that it isn’t a black one.) (And there’s also the claim that the writers are simply white MEN. Because black women can’t be dissatisfied without their being a ploy involved amiright?”)

Anyway, after keeping any eye on numerous comments on different sites (btw, loved your post Neecy) and numerous follow up posts I have come finally had time to piece my thoughts together.


I would advise any young black women, and I’m talking 35 and under to simply adopt the stance of #SHOW ME THE MONEY!  Similar #STAYING OUT OF IT, I would advise black women to ask this question before listening to any source.

As has been going on for the past hundred years or so, there are certain “memes” floating around black people that have been pressed in since the dawn of time and, as the new generation of bw struggle with these failing and flailing memes, and begin to question it, are now being force fed it, “The Giver” style.  (For anyone who’s ever read the novel The Giver, you know what I’m talking about)

Sadly, and I say sadly, because I thought I wouldn’t have to talk about this again, the same themes that black women have been told their entire lives. And we all know what they are (just go back to certain blogs and look at the comments), are popping up again.

But since everyone else has already put their $.02 in I’m going to give you a few of my own “truths” because I feel it is disingenuous and misguided to spread falsities.

  • The only time the question of “where will you go” is brought up is  to and by  black people who currently feel that black women are “giving up” “turning their backs” and moving on.  This question is not brought up to black men who date interracially or enter themselves in the global market.  And despite media, I live in a relatively nice neighborhood and HAVE NOT been shot down in the street simply for having brown skin. (Note like most of the neighborhoods I’ve lived in it is multi racial and gasp! I have actually smiled at the other black people)
  • If the black community truly had black women’s best interests at the forethought, or had any plans to do so,  then certain blogs wouldn’t need to be in existence in the first place.  In itself its circular logic that movements like BWE aren’t need simply because if they weren’t black women would be doing a hell of a lot better than they are now.
  • To younger black women:You do not need some “sensei” black women to give you advice on things when you yourself know better. If something feels wrong, if you know that you’re about to get screwed, if you can see from the strewn streamers and deflated balloons that the Dance is OVER  get the hell out of dodge.
  • Never forget that BM have male privilege (and benefit) and white women have white privilege (and use it).  This is not self hate this is reality.
  • Notice that it is not called #Selfhate #delusional #Whatever I am you made me # Selling out when Black men call out white MEN for their assholery. It’s not called # self hate when white women put feminism first.  Because wanting  white privilege doesn’t negate black men’s Male-ness and wanting male privilege doesn’t suddenly deem white women less of a white person.  This is only said to black women by TWO GROUPS both who need black women to STEP ON TO KEEP THEIR PRIVILEGES. Don’t be fooled.
  • I said before that being in the black community would require you to pretend that male privilege didn’t exist and the same for feminists. You are seeing this in action now.
  • Let’s not pretend that there are not nice neighborhoods that bw can live in that don’t include ghettos or involve black women wasting blood sweat and tears to “rebuild” (While wasting their youth)
  • Let’s not pretend that from people (and I mean all Americans) that generally don’t care to give a homeless person FIVE DOLLARS at Christmastime are going to somehow magically rally together and fix the ills of black community that are rooted in misogyny which half the population is benefiting from ((I’ve said the same about feminism.) People are selfish, they are even moreso when they’re privilege is threatened.
  • Let’s not pretend that fleeing “blackistan” means when you see a black person on the street you snub your nose and keep walking. Really that means leaving situations that are dangerous and potentially life threatening. And yes some are more life threatening than others.
  • Let’s not pretend that taking the supposed “easy way” is a bad thing.   I don’t know who, but someone somewhere long ago came up with the delusional idea that “pain” is a virtue, especially for black women.  I aint here for that. It is simply imprudent not to look for maximum results with minimum input. That’s simply good form.
  • Let’s not pretend (if this were only about dating) that BM or any other race are leaving behind  their “blackness” by dating a different race.  Simply because I don’t sit around sing “black black blackity blackity black” doesn’t mean I’m not black, it means that blackness isn’t the SUM and TOTAL of my existence. Further I believe in quality over QUANTITIY.  Having a white spouse, friend,  living in a nice neighborhood or divorcing yourself from FOOLISHNESS doesn’t mean you’re a sellout.

(Sidenote Halima did  post on this very topic of Civil rights activists who talked a good game about bad white power, and where still married to white WOMEN.  If anyone can give me the link, I’ll give a virtual cookie)

Make no mistake there are those that think they’re “above” racist mainstream feminism. And that would be a good thing if these same people hadn’t tried the other half of the same coin. These people think that the black community doesn’t have a population of people who have the same amount of privilege that white women do, albeit for bm it is male privilege.  As I’ve said A MILLION TIMES, that in no case can you divorce either. There is the expectation by some to forget that to be “black” (which is something some obscure face got to define) is at the direct expense of womanhood. (and vice versa)  This had not changed or been addressed.

Interesectionality people!….

The smugness and sanctimonious question of “where will you go” is in fact useless. 1. It operates under the guise that the black men don’t benefit from misogyny in black “communities” you’re going where “everyone know you’re name.”

Unfortunately you’re not Norm from Cheers and this is no different than the black women who have left feminism.

Telling black women to make decisions based on “black” is simply unilateral and misleading, especially when black women won’t benefit from said work in black communities because they’re WOMEN. And we’ve seen this happen time and time again throughout history. Pounding a rock for water is useless, time consuming and tiring.

Further, those who believe that bwe writers are simply around to praise and lavish white peen, are those who have CHOSEN to overlook the years of issues that black women have brought up.

Sidenote: notice how black women doing their own thing is called running to white cock, and yet black Men can be Men and still fight for racial equality.   Quick way to get black women back to the grind. Because black women can’t call out  injustice amiright, and it certainly can’t be directed at anyone who doesn’t have white skin and a penis attached.

Finally as I was saying earlier, I would advise black women to ask the question, Show me the money, Some people have theories that don’t have any proof, profits, or benefits for black women in the long run, further, they’re simply extensions of what black women have been trying and failing at for years.  While some may doubt the effectiveness of new methods proposed by BWE I would suggest you ask SMTM before eradicating these ideas. After all, if the tried and true methods were currently working so well, WHERE IS ALL THE MONEY?

Until Next Time,