Hello everyone. I wanted to wish everyone a happy new year as I write this final post of the year. This is a topic that I’ve been thinking about for an extremely long time, and was an issue that I’ve struggled to deal with personally.
A while back I was taking a sociology class, and the topic that came up was “minorities”. I say this in quotations because the topic was talking about African Americans and women. Of course this wouldn’t have been a problem, but as usual what that really meant was all the women are white and all the blacks are men.
During this time the class, led by a white woman focused mostly on the problems that white women and black men experienced. And of course it didn’t focus much on black women at all. At the time I remember thinking that it made me extremely angry. I remember thinking that this woman was a complete hypocrite. And while this may have been true,Something that I realized later was that there was really no reason to be angry. This may sound odd but it occurred to me that it just wasn’t worth it. What I mean by that is, this woman was in charge of one class, that is only a stepping stone to a career I want to have. She was not in charge of my psychology program, she was not the sociology program coordinator, hell she wasn’t even asking me to believe or practice the crap I had to write in papers, to get an A in the class.
Basically she was just a temporary blip in my entire life. I have forgotten about that course in that mandatory class, because in the end it just didn’t matter.
Now, am I saying that all black women should ignore the every dbr white feminist or dbr bm that they encounter, no really especially if they ARE in some way trying to stop you from succeeding. What I’m talking about is about black women not deliberately getting worked up over something that doesn’t matter, and is really just blip in your entire life.
Take the for example the latest feminist debacle about Beyonce (YET AGAIN). There were so many black women who were becoming angry that white feminists didn’t think what they wanted, and were yet again dismissing the about Beyoncé. (I guess that was the issue, I don’t really care because I don’t like or approve of Beyoncé but I’m not angry about it.) These women are getting worked up, flocking to social media and ITunes to buy cds and really. What white feminists do an think doesn’t really matter.
White feminists didn’t and don’t stop black women from actually buying albums. White feminists don’t somehow hinder Beyoncé’s sales. White feminists don’t have the power to do much of…. Anything. The white feminists that talk tripe on places like Jezebel and Feministing are simply doing just that.
They have no power and once they log off whatever “feminist” site their on, they will most likely forget it all. Instead of black women knowing this. They got worked up over a woman (who doesn’t give a damn about them and is actually detrimental, and chopped off their nose to spite their face) buying albums and promoting a woman who has literally told them to BOW DOWN.
Basically these women screwed the pooch. Even if we were to pretend that Beyoncé was somehow good for black women, the question is still … WHO CARES? Again, those feminists have no *actual* power and did not have any *actual* say in black women and their ability to buy crap.
What is my point? It would be wise for black women to Render Unto Caesar, in certain cases. When there is nothing to lose and people aren’t actually affecting you, there is no need to involve yourself in foolery, getting yourself angry and upset over nothing.
So if white feminists want to say that they’re the damned POPE. Who cares?
They aren’t actually driving around in a pope mobile.
If white feminist want to go around saying they’re the queen of SHEBA. Who the hell cares?
They aren’t actually (don’t ‘have the power) to start giving decrees and saying “off with their heads.”
If black men want to make hundreds upon hundreds of videos talking about “redbones” and “dark bitches” Who cares.
Let them think they crazy ass things they want. It doesn’t affect your ability not to support these people. It doesn’t affect your ability not to buy things, products, that shame and alarm your sensibilities.
You are still free to make wise decisions and build wise bridges on your own. Render the rest to Caesar.
It would be wise to remember this going into the New Year for you own sanity and sake of mind.
But of course as always, you are free to make your own decisions.
Finally, I wanted to say something a bit off topic, and thank everyone who has supported NYGF for the past two years. I never thought when I started that I’d ever have as many awesome readers as I have today, and when I started I (after reading other amazing BWE writers, I wasn’t even sure what I was trying to achieve, I just had something to say I wanted others to hear, and hoped they agreed. Thanks A million. This has been a great journey for the past two years and I’m looking forward to moving into 2014 with you all.
Until Next Year,