It seems that while I was out, somebody has been busy. Not only was this person very busy, but they also spent their time writing posts. Which wouldn’t be a problem if said posts weren’t bordering only defamatory libel.
Somehow, and in some way, people ( and I mean plural) have had a problem with the last two posts that I said. Which would have been *whatevs* if people were getting their facts straight but it seems that some people have failed to learn reading comprehension, and are now mis representing my posts and what I’ve been talking about.
For the readers who don’t frequent or lurk on BB&W it seems that Jamila Akil has written a post , claiming that I said, and I quote, “[…]that all black women who like Scandal and the main character are self-flagellating know-nothings who are, as she so eloquently wrote, “happily adrift in their own demise.””
It seems that Jamila Akil and those who have a processing deficiency in which they’re one synapse short of a working brain ( and Yes, You CAN quote me on that) have decided to piece together a post title on completely different topic and then put words in my mouth.
That, in itself libel, defamation, and slander, all of which are Just. Plain. Tacky.
So since people failed to hear me the first time let me reiterate what I have been actually saying in my last two posts and what I actually meant.
*Note: I don’t usually care about doing response posts, except in this case there is blatant dishonesty going on and quoting that has been taken out of context. Call me out all you want, don’t lie on me. This will be my first and last post on the issue.
1. The first post… A is for Anger was never, and I mean never about the show scandal. My post was about black women and the things they were angry about, in this post I named a few of them, and one of them was “Lousy media representation.”
In this post, I decided it would be a good time to address a question that someone had asked me months ago on what I thought about the show Scandal. Before I ever answered this question, I wrote a post (In February of this year) talking about how hypocritical some people were concerning the character Olivia Pope being in adulterous/immoral relationship when most everything on TV in itself is immoral.
That was as far as I ever wrote (or cared for that matter) about the show Scandal. When said commenter asked me about Scandal again, these months later, I still had no real answer about the show either way and refrained from answering until recently.
This was in the post A IS FOR ANGER. In this post I said this.
Someone once asked me what I thought about Scandal and I declined to answer the question because at the time I wasn’t sure, but something in the back of my mind has always nagged at me about that show and I finally was able to put into words why I don’t like it or at the very least mistrust the hope of a Happily Ever After for the character:
The show goes out of its way to show this black woman in dysfunctional INTERRACIAL relationship. Which if you look at almost any show or movie with a black woman in it, that trope is used ad nauseum. Aside from the usual **** block trope that is used to keep black women from effectively being put in the OTP the writers make sure to put black women in shows that either have a LOVE TRIANGLE ( always with a white woman who “wins”) put them in shows that don’t encourage shipping ( a la person of interest) or they put them in a relationship that is MORALLY OBJECTIONABLE (For example the man is committing adultery on Scandal and the man is married on Sleepy Hollow) so that by the end of the show , fans don’t expect them to actually get together.
Now, somebody somewhere got it into their heads that I have it for black women who watch the show, and think that Olivia Pope is a dumb whore who needs to shove a cork up her legs.
In fact let me break down what I meant, since it’s so complicated.
I think Scandal in itself is no worse than any of the other shows on television re her having an affair or considering “morals” (whatever that means on television). What I pointed out in my Olivia Pope, Honey Boo Boo, post (or tried to) was that people have randomly picked this show as the MOST IMMORAL OF ALL the shows simply because the she was sleeping with a married man.
We all know, are not green behind the ears, can see clearly that black women’s sexuality is a double standard. ( I also wrote about this same thing with Beyonce and her Feminism or lack thereof) So, because of the fact that black women have a sexuality double standard in which they can’t do anything with out being assumed to be a whore, I said that shows like Scandal don’t do black women any favors in the image department.
Concerning “shippers” these people ( and I mean mostly non black women viewers) usually don’t ‘like having black women as love interests to begin with. Usually the writers put black women characters in situations in which the audience and their oh so faux delicate sensibilities couldn’t possibly “ship” the black female character with the main love interests, especially since he has a wife. See the same reaction from the concern trolls for the show sleepy hollow.
What I said about this show was that the women who show up for shipping purposes are going to get screwed because they don’t realize the writers intent was to purposely put them in situations that would not call for shipping.
I said nothing more, nothing less on the subject of Scandal. In fact the main purpose of bringing up scandal at all was about Hollywood’s tendency to put black women into interracial relationships on screen that always #fail and they were clearly set up like that to begin with. Though they do a very good job of wanking the black women watching the show.
Now let’s talk about who I was speaking of when I said some women “happily adrift in their own demise.”
Responses to A is for Anger were varied, and some people (and I’ve seen black women that aren’t on this blog say the same thing) thought that black women should be watching any of these shows for romantic relationships because as long as the character is “well rounded” in everything else it’s fine.
What I said was and you can read my comments on both posts since they are public, was that black women who watch mainstream media shouldn’t settle for this because black women only being shown with a good career and no (successful love life ) is par for the course. Been there done that bought the t-shirt. I said for those who insist on watching / buying mainstream media, they should want to see black women in the relationships because this is the way to break the idea that black women “don’t need no man” see the gifs in the previous post.
I said that those who don’t think that black women shown in healthy, relationships (especially interracial relationships) those who don’t think it’s important to show black women as normal functioning, fleshed out women who have love lives (and I don’t mean the failing ships writers like to put black women in re Bonnie on Vampire diaries) are adrift in their own demise simply because in a world that is both sexist and racist black women don’t have the privilege of being seen that way regardless of the role.
I also said that the women who are shipping these shows couples are heading for disappointment, (although it shouldn’t be too much to expect and it doesn’t make you wrong to want) because the writers aren’t going to do that on mainstream media.
I was in fact directing my words to women who “ship “couples.( and I go on forums, tumbler, TWOP, IMDB, FANFORUM and read reviews of almost all of these shows to know these women are out there) II was NOT to people who like the show Scandal (and other shows with black women fandoms) for other reasons I said these women are going to e disappointed if they didn’t create their own media and continued to wait for Hollywood to give handouts.
I said the least black women could do when watching shows like Scandal is have their eyes open or watch for other purposes.
I said nothing about the people who choose to watch scandal for whatever other reasons. What I said was that these people shouldn’t shame those who want to watch shows with black women as love interests as only “living vicariously”(and I’ve heard this on multiple sites throughout the years) because wanting to be shown in a positive relationship (i.e. not one designed to fail by the writers or purposely turn off the concern troll black and non black audience alike from shipping) because that is not too much to ask.
I said nothing more and nothing less.
I never spoke about people who continue to watch mainstream media. I said if you don’t like it (Which is what I addressed in A is For Anger) the CHANGE IT. and I subsequently gave ways to do so. Which led to other commenters talking about the plausibility of such suggestions.
Ironically, both scandal and mainstream media, were small fractions of a cumulative twelve pages of words between both posts and yet that is was people are continually harping focusing on.
As Muslim Bushido, just recently said, http://muslimbushido.blogspot.ca/2013/10/points-of-frictiona-peek-behind-scenes.html I am not your mother, I do not care about you watching whatever you want to watch. “I’m not a parent trying to keep rebellious teenagers in check […]. Despite what some may believe, I am getting no money for this blog, no advertisements are getting paid to me, I am not benefiting in any way whether you listen to my blog or not. I am one person with one voice who writes to other people who I think may possibly feel the same as I do. If not….. you’re free to walk away. You are not chained at the foot. You have no shackles placed by me. You are FREE.
Until Next Time,
Oh yah and when quoting my blog, feel free to actually quote the blog and not simply take a title that you’ve skimmed from an article that was part of a series.
First rule on NYGF is to read more than one post before making accusations.
- Do not post comments summing up my blog if it is the first post you have ever read. I have had a few commenters come on and tell me what they think my blog is all about and generally these people have either skimmed my posts or only read one post while not reading any others. I will not re explain myself on things that are perfectly obvious to others. I will probably assume you are a troll and delete your comments. (most of which are usually nasty)
The next time fodder, is needed for a post find another blog to do it. Don’t resort to besmirching the name of NYGF. I don’t play that.