Today I wanted to discuss the last post that I wrote and some things that have been a long time coming. It seemed that some commenters don’t understand why I specifically highlight and focus on the privilege of certain groups and highlight the fact that in some situations black women aren’t going to win. Some commenters (and some readers) may feel that I focus too much on pointing out the privilege that other groups have that black women lack.
Since I have gotten more than one of these comments on more than one occasion I will spend this post to talking about why I write what I write.
When I started this blog, I knew one of the biggest problems that I had when I looked at the collective lives of black women was that many of them made poor decisions. Now, before you get your panties incurably in a bunch. What I mean by this is whether black women have been (against their will) or not fed a line black a large majority of black women as a GROUP have the tendency to make decisions that go AGAINST self-interest.
Even when I first started writing this blog I wasn’t sure the reasons for this, if you looked at my early posts, I did point phenomenon’s that I continually saw concerning black women by I still never noticed the WHY.
It wasn’t until I read numerous pieces of literature by black women authors, like the book But Some of Us Are Brave: All the Women Are White, all The Blacks Are Men and Crenshaw’s very illuminating works on Intersectionality that I started to piece things together.
It was then (and if you look at my posts under the ‘posts you may want to read first’ tab) that you see how I pieced things together, and drew my conclusions, that black women will NEVER benefit from the privilege that is set up to be gained from either black power movements or feminist movements, unless in the barest strictest terms.
Now, some people may believe that write of this is to HARP on the idea or place black women in the position of thinking that they are powerless, but from my point of view I feel that at NYGF it is important to talk about this privilege and point it out in its entirety.
Why? Because most black women from what I am seeing do not understand the name of the game. They do not understand that the game for is rigged in the favor of others (yes based on privilege) and because of this black women do not choose alignments that will have them benefiting.
Why do I emphasize alignments? Because considering the way that privilege currently plays out in the United States, the only thing that black women have left IS alignments.
And don’t mistake me alignments are not something to scoff at. In fact I would say (If I haven’t made this clear to readers before) that alignments are more important than anything else.
Unfortunately too many black women make the wrong ones. As I said because most black women don’t understand that understanding privilege goes hand in hand with making the right choices.
How? Let me give a few examples before I move on.
Let’s first talk about the “all great” media machine that black women CONTINUAL FUEL and FEED LIKE A LOVING PET.
Recently there were a number of shows featuring black women on them coming out, and as usual many black women, as they always do jumped on the bandwagon to support these shows full blast. Without asking for PROOF that they would benefit these black women have JUMPED at the CHANCE to SUPPORT AND BOLSTER shows, still misunderstanding the fact that the game has been rigged.
In the case of the show Twisted on ABC FAMILY these women believed, truly believed the idea that the media monster would switch things up in the past 100 years and put black women in the role of love interest and not a side kick, and after they’d wasted their money and gotten the show a back order of episodes, that they were again going to be relegated to “token”. These women didn’t understand, still don’t get that in the world of PRIVLEGE the black girl in a love triangle is only there to draw in black women viewers but will never actually get the love interest. In the world of privilege and the world of media, that white WOMEN are going to be pushed at the penultimate of womanhood, and love. Instead of black women choosing to vote with their wallets these women got played. Which they only realized after a series of promotional tweets show this favor for the white female character.
Jumping farther down the media rabbit hole, I continue to see this, the television show Sleepy Hollow on Fox already has legions of black women orgasming at the prospect of a “person of color” having a ‘real role”. These black women actually believe that Beharie is going to be a potential love interest and not a FAN WANK. Even if the show starts out strong NOW I guarantee that it’s all downhill from here.
These black women don’t realize that if they even ever intended the black character to be a love interest they wouldn’t have put the Foil of the character having a WIFE that acts as a very effective **** block. They would notice that this is cleverly used on almost ALL shows that black women are the major character. Or as someone in a forum once pointed out when it’s time to discourage shipping on a “serious” show a la person of interest they cast a black female character. Because of course we won’t ship them, amiright?
Someone once asked me what I thought about Scandal and I declined to answer the question because at the time I wasn’t sure, but something in the back of my mind has always nagged at me about that show and I finally was able to put into words why I don’t like it or at the very least mistrust the hope of a Happily Ever After for the character:
The show goes out of its way to show this black woman in dysfunctional INTERRACIAL relationship. Which if you look at almost any show or movie with a black woman in it, that trope is used ad nauseum. Aside from the usual **** block trope that is used to keep black women from effectively being put in the OTP the writers make sure to put black women in shows that either have a LOVE TRIANGLE ( always with a white woman who “wins”) put them in shows that don’t encourage shipping ( a la person of interest) or they put them in a relationship that is MORALLY OBJECTIONABLE (For example the man is committing adultery on Scandal and the man is married on Sleepy Hollow) so that by the end of the show , fans don’t expect them to actually get together.
Now, my point isn’t to go on and on about television shows with black women on them. No my point is that black women DON”T SEEM TO GET THAT privilege in the media almost effectively assures that that black women WILL come out on the bottom. If they knew this black women would PROBABALY choose better alignments. They would realize that they already lost when they are put in a love triangle to begin with, or they would realize that dysfunctional relationship is strategically placed to discourage shipping.
These black women would understand the function of privilege and how it works in Mass Media and keep it moving. Alas, black women don’t not get this and so they keep getting wanked. Indeed most of the people who were angered by Scandal were upset because the man was white, not because the black character was put on sinking “ship” that viewers would purposefully and instinctively revolt because of “moral objections.”
…. A is for Anger
But let’s move on. Because media isn’t the biggest problem that black women have concerning realizing privilege and subsequently getting SCREWED.
In fact I’ve noticed a few things that black women collectively complain about the following things.
- No Representation in the Media
- Bad Representation in the Media
- Sorry love lives
- Being overlooked in feminism and black power movements
- The fact that these groups don’t CARE about their problems.
Did I leave anything out?
In every single one of these cases black women’s problems could be solved if they simply UNDERSTOOD THE WAY PRIVILEGE WORKED. Don’t Believe me? Let me break it down for you.
The problem concerning no representation could be solved simply by turning off your television. And rejecting most of forms of popular culture. It could also be solved by black women making their OWN media.
Make no mistake, this isn’t 1960’s. The internet is in full form and advancing every day we saw how the web show Awkward Black Girl made a new season based simply on DONATIONS, anyone can publish a book on Amazon Publishing that could have black women as love interests in interracial or even non interracial if black women were willing to publish them.
Black women could produce their own (small budgeted movies) if they decided to organize effectively for donations. (Hell the show Veronica Mars is getting a movie simply from this)
Black women would stop getting BAD representation when they VOTE WITH THEIR WALLETS as other BWE writers like Evia have pointed.
Black women’s sorry love lives would disappear if they expanded their dating pool past the ‘nothing but a black man” check box while dating. Again this isn’t the 1960’s it isn’t illegal or hard to date someone outside of their race.
Black women would stop losing their resources and effectively cut of the chances that black men and white women have actively taken to crush black women if they’d stop putting ammunition into their guns and supporting their WHINING movements in which they complain they came in SECOND Place and got the silver medal instead of the gold they’ve been coveting.
At this point we are as far as we can go with either, as both have proven they are regressing. You don’t need to be a feminist or black rights activist to have common sense, go to college or make good. decisions. Despite the lies you’re being fed black women CAN live WELL without giving your soul to the devil. Many of black women’s problems would also EVAPORATE and Do once they escape blackistan neighborhoods and leave deadbeat blacks to fend for themselves.
So what’s my point?
My point is that I don’t know how much of a connection some of my readers and other black women get, that to be successful in these things. Black women would have to UNDERSTAND THE WAY PRIVILEGE works in these situations (and yes it is there) To avoid this, to not point out the way privilege would be catastrophic because many black women are paralyzed to do anything about the problems they have. They may feel guilt at not supporting what they’ve been brainwashed to support, anger that they’ve been screwed again or they may even believe entities like the media do not have an agenda and are actually their ‘friend’.
I at NYGF focus on privilege or the lack thereof for black women because once black women get why they are losing they can choose things that allow them to win. Remember more important than privilege is alignments. Supporting things that truly support black. Women. If you wonder what these things are you’ll know them if they have actual tangible benefits. Not promises of benefits like this is some sort of futurity .
Continual anger is for those who believe that they have no power over the a situation. It is for people who are powerless and have NO Chance of being able to change their status. Black Women are not these people. Black women once they change their alignments or as I have been saying REMAIN NEUTRAL and choose what’s INDIVIDUALLY best for them, they will be upwardly mobile so that privilege doesn’t matter.
A commenter once asked me what was the best way to support other black women. I didn’t have time to answer then but now I can answer. What I would say is that the best way for black women to help other black women is to SAVE YOURSELF!!!! What I mean by this is make sure that you are secured make the best decisions that you can and other black women will see and copy the same way. Don’t listen to naysayers, they are most likely jealous or scared but most people are followers so if they see a good thing they are most likely to try to get in on the action to benefit. Show other black women that you can have the courage to leave blackistan areas and expand their dating pool. Mentor a young girl (if you have the capacity or the opportunity) to show them how to unplug from the media world. .
And remember that you are NOT powerless, privilege is only a small facet of life. You can get on top simply by being smart. Once you understand how it works you have unlimited potential.
Basically live by example.
I know I will.
Until Next Time,
PS. I’m sorry this is so late and I failed to respond to comments on the last post. My classes started up again, and I’ve begun writing again. I’m just trying to juggle it all…
Please bear with me.
Also please forgive any spelling or grammatical errors, I was in a hurry.