It seems that black women have issues, not only do black women have issues but it seems that black women have issues and they don’t even know that they have issues.
Which is the best type of person to victimize….amiright?
Apparently some of the black women that commented on my last article
had numerous problems with the things that I said about black women not supporting media that doesn’t give them good representations. *Ironically that wasn’t really what the post was about in its entirety* but I guess that’s what people deferred payments to.
But after reading the comments, and, phew, there were a lot,
Here’s what I learned in boating school.
1. Some black women don’t believe that it’s necessary to only focus on supporting black women characters who are in meaningful NORMALIZED relationships (whether the male is white or black).
2. Some black women (and I’m assuming just based on statistics that there are other people who didn’t comment who feel the same way) feel that black women should take all the roles that they can get to create a hodgepodge of roles that black women can pick and choose from.
3. Some black women believe that as long as the character is shown being a “well rounded” character, it doesn’t matter if the character is in a relationship. I.e. the character is a ‘strong independent woman’.
4. Some black women feel that if you don’t support ALL black women, these black women actresses are going to be out of jobs and well….. We can’t have that….
Because there aren’t millions of jobs as, dentists, office workers, psychologists, they could have instead… amiright?
5. Some black women don’t feel it’s a good idea live “vicariously” through television in the hopes of being portrayed as being in a good relationship. * Note: And let’s be clear that these black women are not the ones (like I am) who advocate turning off ALL media.
6. These black women don’t understand the simplicity of privilege.
7. These black women don’t understand psychology and perception.
And I don’t mean that in a way that would insinuate that I’m insulting any of these readers or commenters out there. Instead it’s more a reflection on me, because, as they say, it means that I’m not doing my job, eh.
So since my last post clearly left people looking like this:
I’ll go back and point out why these basic ideas could potentially spell continued demise for the average black woman.
Let’s begin shall we?
For starters I have said for a very long time (and many commenters also pointed out in their awesome comments) that the mass media is a machine that has its own propaganda going on. I have, for a very long time, suggested that black women turn off the media all together.
See My Black Women In Fandoms Series under the Series’ Tab.
Unfortunately since the majority of viewers are simply not ready, willing, etc to unplug their televisions and simply walk away their simply stuck playing a game of Russian roulette in which they are only a triggers breath from getting their brains blown out.
You see these women are the ones that don’t understand how privilege works. Or, that is, they aren’t thinking of it in the basic terms. For women to believe the falsity (and I say falsity because ONLY black women have been sweetly naïve enough to believe this very clever line) that being shown in normative relationships is a BAD THING.
I guess I never made it clear but now I will: When it comes to black women in most cases concerning feminism the inverse is always going to be true.
That is, and getting purely technical here, whatever will be true for feminists will almost ALWAYS be the exact opposite for black women.
I’ll give you some examples:
1. Many white women feminists have a problem with the fact that many products targeted to white women are always pink, and/ or stereotypically Feminine. They call for things that are gender neutral.
For black women the inverse is true: Black women ( because of that pesky thing called race) are NOT targeted with things that are “typically feminine” in fact for black women there is a LACK of feminine clothes, toys etc targeted to black women.
What is the rule here?
White women, because they have white privilege can only complain about these things because they are already ASSUMED to be feminine inherently despite behavior to the contrary.
Here’s another example:
White feminists largely complain that being a stay at home mom is restricting; many feminists believe that the only way to lose their chains would be to have jobs working outside of the home.
For black women the inverse would apply: Black women (because of that pesky thing called race) didn’t have the privilege of being stay at home moms and deciding to go to work if they felt like it. Since the beginning of black women’s .. ahem.. stay.. here in the Good ole U.S black women have in large numbers, been working, in some form or other.
My family is the perfect example, my grandmother worked, my great grandmother worked (as a maid), her mother worked. This option was simply not there.
What is the rule here?
White women, because a large number of them had privilege were able to Stay At Home when black women weren’t able to. Now, what does that have to do with this post. Let’s play the inverse game again. I continually see black women say that as long as the character is “fleshed out” and has “good characterization” it’s a good role, and that black women don’t have to be shown in relationships (non screwy ones, that is) for it to be positive representation. Because sexism and all that jazz.
The black women have believe this have been hoodwinked to the extreme because they don’t understand what is going on.
But let me break it down for you.
It is not, nor will it ever be beneficial to black women to be *only* shown as “competent workers” and “strong females”. Forget your last feminist lesson, forget what your mother told you, forget the lies that have been peddled and forget who told you them. * We already who spread that lie that black women would benefit even though these same group FLOCK to movies with the exact things they complain about.*
Simply because of black women’s history as workers, the fact that they had to hold down jobs, the presumption that black women are competent if not single, and the pesky little thing called race, black women have NEVER had a problem with being assumed to hold down a job or have a career.
Hell the “Strong independent black woman” idea has become a meme to blacks and non blacks alike in which black women are being laughed at. Like this…
The fact of the matter is troll face got you again. And continues to get you.
I would also venture to say that the only reason why white women can complain about this representation (which they still sign up for mind you and watch on television and) is because they, no matter what they do will inherently be thought of as feminine.
Meanwhile you’re willingly going to the guillotine for them and you’ll never get a penny in recompense.
Black women cannot afford NOT to be represented as feminine. In actuality that fact is what separates black women from white women.
Being shown as feminine, in a relationship, vulnerable, beautiful in mass media would be the way to go to change perception since black women are insistent on playing with the big dogs.
Moving on, let’s talk about the women who may think that it’s in black women’s best interests to support all roles (either bad or otherwise) so they can have an amalgam of ones to choose from.
These women don’t understand the basic tenets of privilege either.
But let me explain why it is deadly to assume that taking on even bad roles will help get black women ‘into the door’
1. It assumes that black women have the privilege of being able to not be characterized by their WORST stereotypes instead of their best. We all know this isn’t true. See memes above.
2. It assumes that once black women sully themselves making fools and playing the jester for audiences white, black and otherwise, out of the goodness of their hearts will media execs one day decide that black women have paid their dues. It assumes that Hollywood doesn’t have an agenda or a reason to keep black women on the bottom and continue to reinforce that.
3. It relies on other people to give them their “big breaks” which we know isn’t going to happen. See recent comments by Kenan Thompson on SNL and black female comedians who simply “aren’t ready” to be on the show, instead of using the opportunity to stand by other black females.
4. It assumes that once you’ve overgrown your garden with the weeds that are bad press and bad media it will be easy to rid, and black women will have the opportunity. We know this doesn’t happen. Re. The Tyler Perry effect.
5. It assumes that once you give these people your money they will use it to further a good agenda when all know that the world loves blacks who behave badly, as long as they will have an audience they will continue to keep being jesters. See Rihanna’s Pour It Up video in which we all see her practically get a pap smear. Further these people do not want to and never will promote classy blacks, they wouldn’t have been hired otherwise.
Finally one commenter pointed out that beggars can’t be choosers when you’re dying of thirst.
When I first read this I knew there was something faulty about the logic, but I wasn’t sure what it was… I’ve figured it out now, and it might be obvious to other readers.
This comment casts black women in a role in which they are the slaves. In this case black women are dependent on a “master” to “give”( at their whim might I add) you a trickle of water as they so choose while ultimately keeping the majority for themselves. Under this idea it is overlooked that the “trickle” black women receive is mostly tainted water that causes dysentery and diarrhea.
Under this idea it also shows that black women can’t get up, walk away and simply move to the GIANT CREEK that is alternative media and work from there. In fact, it makes it seem as if there are chains to be loosed when that is not the case. In this model of thought, black women have been tricked again in to think that you need the media, to give you things, ( and not even anything fully) instead of getting up and getting what’s sitting right in front of you.
Again this isn’t the 1960’s the internet is in full force, you are NOT a slave. You are not dependent.
But it does show that the media is doing a good job causing the perception of dependency and ‘all things through us” mentality in black women.
And they say the best type of slave is the one who doesn’t even have to be chained.
This is Stockholm syndrome at its best. This hopefulness that the media will really , and truly one day give black women something when it had done it’s very best to destroy black women all together.
Further, the supposition that once black women get their foot in the door, they will be given more roles in which are positive is under the assumption that OTHER groups will support them.
But we know re Kenan Thompson. They will do their very best to keep what privileges they have to themselves. Because the jackasses, who thought it was alright to degrade themselves for money were let into Hollywood they get to set the standard. These people are easy to appease. And when they get ahead they will use the only bodies left to stay up. That Is, if it wasn’t very clear, those of black women and girls.
Further let’s not pretend that these groups won’t instinctively revolt against black women taking what they perceived as being their “own” . Ie. Look at the backlash concerning many black women in fandoms.
Basically by supporting anything, you’re supporting the very baseless hope that people will give black women stuff out of the goodness of their hearts after black women have slaved away.
You are playing into a machine and ultimately losing.
Moving on….If I haven’t tired you out already… let’s move to the topic of perception, living vicariously, and the psychology behind the media.
Some readers had a problem with the idea of black women “living vicariously through television”
These black women have a problem with black women going to the media for “relationship representation”
These black women didn’t suggest turning off the television all together, which I would advocate, and have advocated. No. These women were specifically talking about the black women who want to see their own ‘ship’ on television or be cast as love interests.
I’m on to this.
Television is itself living vicariously. You will never be part of The Avengers. You will never get that hot chick… yes I’m looking at YOU Jonah Hill/ Seth Rogan. You will never be Olivia Pope, or an ad executive in the 60’s or walk with zombies and you will never go on a magic carpet ride.
You will live an ordinary life, on mid scale, salary, with your mediocre children and your mediocre marriage. Television is an escape. Television is all about living vicariously.
For the people who insist on feeding into the media machine it is also about using said machine to generate positive representation. Because the smart people know that if you see something over and over and over and over and over again you can, whether you admit it or not change perception.
For example see the complete and continual assassination of Asian male characters in the media that we have all seen over and over again that are now part of cultural perception.
Because we all know that if something is said enough it becomes reality whether it’s reality or not.
The only way you would be immune to this is if you unplug completely.
These black women will not but they are busy carrying out the biggest wank by feminists to black women in history.
The wank that I’m talking about is the one where it’s only okay to live vicariously through television as long as it’s supporting the “feminist” (I.e. white female privilege) idea of “not needing a man” (again already assumed for black women) and having a career (also assumed for black women) The problem these black women raised about living vicariously was ONLY brought up when it came to ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS.
Uh oh. You see these black women have been tricked by the white feminists who told them that the only thing needed to make black women seen as equal was an awesome career and “independence” (WTM). So supporting Scandal is alright as long as you only like her because of her bad ass wardrobe. Liking Joss Carter on Person of Interest is simply fine as long as it’s for her mind.. And her mind only.
The greatest irony of it all is that these women don’t realize the inverse on the romantic relationships front. And that is the ONLY Reason why they aren’t given love lives is BECAUSE THEY ARE BLACK !!!!! These women so happy with themselves to be given what they perceive as a bone, and so upset that black women want to see themselves on television in relationships don’t realize in the penultimate fail of them all. The only reason why they are not put in relationships is because they don’t want to show black women as flesh and blood characters who think feel, have sex , experience love, and are indeed feminine.
The trick is to make you think that everything’s changed even when you haven’t moved and inch…..
These black women, the evil twin to those begging for their “ship” to win on television when that was NEVER the plan, don’t realize they are simply the counterpart to these women. In fact I’d say that if you think that it’s GOOD to support the roles in which black women are “competent career woman” who don’t “need love lives’ you’re actually even worse off. Because at least the rabid and delusional “shippers” know what time it is.
They’re simply, how you say, looking for love in all the wrong places, and that’s mass media. For the others, I see the feminist hypocrisy, and I’m calling you out.
For those of you who had no problem with the last post and know you’re getting wanked, I would suggest to continue heading towards the exits, creating your own media, your own representations, and not depending on them or supporting them at all.
Most black women don’t have the resources to throw away on false promises anyway.
You’ll thank me later. Or at the very least save yourself and ass load of money by cutting your cable box, and enjoy a psychological freedom you’ve never experienced before. That is truly when you don’t live vicariously but start representing yourself. Anything is just child’s play.
Until Next Time,
Stay sane, and stay neutral