Admit it, you #FAILED.
Seriously. It’s time to put down the armor and accept what many women have known since the 80’s. The feminist movement, got derailed, lost its way, got distracted, whatever you want to call it. But I think it’s time to give up the ghost.
Similar to the Vietnam war that was dragged, out it’s time to admit that women… Failed.
I’m sure you’re thinking that’s a bit harsh. But I don’t mind being the one to incur that wrath of said women who aren’t willing to admit that the new age feminist movement is an #EPICFAIL.
I won’t lie the first women’s rights activists had their head in the right place. (Although I won’t even point out the racism in that first generation wave of feminists.) But those women wanted equality and the got it.
This generation of feminists?… Meh. Not so much.
Let’s stop pretending that the past few generations of feminists who’ve been so concerned about “free love” between “consenting adults” and “sex positivism” are holding down the fort. There is no fort! The fort is really just a cheap tent blew away in the midst of all the stupidity.
What am I *whining* about this time and what made me tell feminists to give up their Call to Arms?
Well I was recently reading the news about a young woman named Mackenzie Rosman. If the name sounds familiar (or doesn’t) this woman used to play Ruthie Camden, on 7th Heaven the show. By now, Mackenzie Rosman is probably 23 or so. But that’s not why she made the news. Of course in the usual turn of events that women don’t even realize the only way women make the news is when they’re naked as the day they were born.
You see Mackenzie Rosman had an article about how much she’d grown up, because she’s decided to pose for Maxim Magazine. Of course there were plenty of women, (and men who like barely dressed women) to congratulate the young women for what a “long way” she’s come.
As I read the comments on the yahoo article (granted there were those who disapproved) the comments from the people who thought it was acceptable, and the support and even push of this by women who consider themselves “feminists,” “womanists” whatever the name du jour is, It hit me with a ton of bricks….
If the definition of “coming a long way”, If the focal point of the modern movement is being able to get naked; when ripping off your clothes is a privilege or sign of status or a turning point or a career aspiration for women…
WE NEED HELP.
Honestly. I’ve said a million times that this is the epiciest, of epically epic fails that women have ever created.
Think about it. The entire logic behind doing crap like this is that that “consenting adults” should be able to “do whatever they want as long as they’re not hurting anyone.”
I don’t know if women ever realized this but women were always able to take off their clothing! People have been doing that since the beginning of time!
SO…. it is the biggest feminist fail of all time when you think that it means something because you can have casual sex, or work as a prostitute and think its empowering. It isn’t called the oldest profession in the world for no reason….
And speaking on this subject let’s talk about the irony of the feminist world touting such careers as empowering. I find it a particular feminist fail that the things that women find empowering are what men have always enjoyed women doing and created themselves/benefited the most from. Do you understand? These women think that it is somehow empowering to take off their clothing which is what men have never complained about.
Even more telling is that while women have changed themselves completely, men haven’t changed. In all of the “empowering” men still basically have done the same things that they always did. Well except now they can admit that they watch pornography, pump and dump, and visit strippers without fear of being shunned.
But I’d like to point out the obvious flaw that I keep noticing. MEN are never the ones to take off their clothes. While the number of female strippers/ porn stars may have grown exponentially since the feminist movement began. The numbers of men have not increased. Further if you step outside of the porn/ stripper movement where you see that the majority of strippers are women, If you look at the “entertainment” industry you’ll see that women are STILL the only people taking off their clothes to be “empowered.” MEN do not christen their career by stripping down in videos.
Sure, the movie “Magic Mike” came out last year. But Matthew McConaughey already had a career where he didn’t have to take his clothes off for money. And I certainly never heard them tout it as EMPOWERING.
See women have convinced themselves that they have empowered themselves, when really the status quo has not changed. AT ALL. Well, something has changed, now women have been convinced that they LIKE it.
Bad on you, feminism bad on you.
But I don’t want to bore you talking about the sex fails within the feminist world. Let’s talk about the blatant racism that after 100 years the feminist community has yet to tackle, notice, or care about. And if they did they pushed it aside.
Let’s talk about yet and more importantly, GROWING and MORE OBVIOUS racism. And if it’s not racism its feigned stupidity and foolishness that 10+ years had done nothing to fix.
Let’s talk about an article in Jezebel on the fact that a large majority of women in Nigeria (supposedly) use skin whitening cream. Let’s talk about the feigned concern from the white women on there that couldn’t seem to fathom the fact that black women who bleached their skin and even Asian women in Asian countries do it because the standard of beauty around the world is WHITE WOMEN. Of course to admit this white women feminists would have to admit that they are *actually* better off than their black “sisters”. That would mean that they would have to feel guilty. What I read was a bunch of comments from women poo poohing that all women had to adhere to standards as they tried to say that it was the same as white women had to tan to be accepted.
But as one poor soul pointed out they didn’t seem to get the difference and how inappropriate that it was to compare it. Funny because these are the same women who would (rightfully) get mad if a man tried to compare SAFE male circumcision to the removing of a female’s clitoris or sewing of the vagina.
Nobody told these women in all of their “I wish that women didn’t have adhere to beauty standards that I’m too dumb to realize that I benefit from and uphold” that they sounded like navel gazing butt-heads.
But let’s not stop there.
Let’s also talk about the ten year old response FINALLY to Tyler Perry and their delayed response to the abuse black women have been incurring and complaining about since day ONE when Tyler Perry first exploded on the scene. NOW white feminists have realized that they have a problem with Tyler Perry’s rapey saming/blaming misogynistic filled film. ( which if we all no Tyler Perry is par for the usual course) . I wish I could say that they finally pulled their head out of their butt or had some religious epiphany that showed them how selfish that they really were. More like the Steubenville case has them on hyper alert and they realized this would be good to use in the their fight.
Because Rick Ross would still be making music if it weren’t for Steubenville.
In 100+ years white women feminists still have not learned that it is shitty to use black women as a tool for their own ends and then discard them afterwards.
Speaking of self serving, Let’s talk about the recent events of Barack Obama calling some (black) woman cute and the feminist backlash.
BettyChambers has written a very good article
with a thesis on why these women chose something as simple as being called cute to call out but don’t mind letting all manner of evil against black women slip by their heads any other time. She has a theory and it’s not pretty.
I think one commenter pointed out something even more amazing on the article she asked the question
What I find so interesting (read revealing) is the notion to step up and defend/protect a Black woman when she’s referred to with a term that pretty much carries a positive connotation, but when we’re referred to as b-words, ho’s, sluts or a 9 yr. old little Black girl is called the c-word, it’s “nothing to see here/” radio silence from the feminist collective. Very interesting indeed.
This commenter is correct indeed. When a little black girl got called a CUNT by media feminists were among some of the ONLY people defending or downplaying it. Then when a black women get’s complemented and called beautiful white feminists practically burn down the White House before they get the president Obama to apologize.
Why do feminists have a problem with this. Isn’t it as empowering as calling a child a CUNT. The blatant racism in this outrage is telling and teeth grindingly obvious. They didn’t get the point of the white tennis player mocking Serena Williams body could be construed as offensive when throughout history ( think of Sara Baartman) black women’s bodies have been reduced to a JOKE. Hell this white woman mocking Serana Wiliams’ “ass and titties” didn’t even realize in all of her privilege that there is a song ABOUT black women with the lyrics ‘ass and titties, and big booty bitches.”
These women don’t even realize their own blunders.
But nobody would dare speak on the hypocrisy. They couldn’t use defending Q Wallis (and certainly not Serena Williams) to their end so they don’t care. But now that they can use this women being called beautiful or more particularly they revolt at the idea, now pick up the war gear.
Not going to happen on this front. Call me when they start caring about young girls being called CUNT. But that won’t happen because while things like that happen they’re to busy getting mad that Seth Macfarlane joked about seeing Anne Hathaway’s boobs.
I guess similar to the Oscar’s situation these feminists only go where the attention will be.
But I couldn’t even begin to discuss, would probably write a dissertation on how telling it is that white women feminists had a problem with compliments to black women but not a blatant and undeniable INSULT….
Very telling indeed.
What’s also very telling is the still renewed (did it ever go away) outrage at Beyonce who has again claimed that she is a feminist. As before they believe that Beyonce is too slutty and sexual to be a feminist. The hypocrisy on this front is still alive and well.
Like I said before any many other posts on this subject. It takes someone very special, very WHITE to sleep with as many men as possible and laud casual sex and demeaning behavior and call themselves feminist (ahem Carrie Bradshaw, ahem, Lena dunham, ahem Lady Gaga.) but Beyonce with her black skin and her blonde weave can’t join in on all the stupidity.
And I don’t like/support/ buy Beyonce’s products but the underlying racism that I’ve pointed out is yet another obvious #FAIL.
But what’s even more of a fail is the willingness to throw away feminist cards on something so stupid.
It shows exactly where priorities are in the feminist community and has me taking 50 paces away.
The relevance of celebrities within a movement is actually a sign of its weakness. As TheLastPsychologist said in one post (that I can’t remember or I would link), the fact that feminism is “mainstream” is in itself the failure.
Because it’s been “watered down” it’s been stripped of its core to the Girls/ Sex and The City watching women. As that author said, it’s a product to use to get women to buy movies/ tv shows.
The “celebrities” involved in movements can’t be helpful simply because most actresses/ actors/ singers/ etc will only do what is popular, what will get them fame, more viewers/ listeners, and more MONEY.
SO debating Beyonce and her place in feminism is a moot point because the fact that we’re discussing her at is a symptom and signal that FEMINISM is dead.
The conversation is rendered useless.
It always will be when You let celebrities and mass media into a movement.
But that’s the whole tragic point and the reason why Feminism is the #epicallyepicFAIL that is today.
Most women (white and black) will listen to ANYONE who claims to be a feminist. It’s quite simple really to pull the wool over most women in the feminist movement’s eyes.
You really only have to say the same buzz words. “pro choice” ” sex positive” “consenting adults” “non judgemental” and not only will feminists welcome you with open arms they’ll plummet right over a cliff trying to do it.
Hell most women, who have been trained to perk up at these buzz words, show everyday that critical thinking is NOT alive and well.
I think about the recent lift on the ban for women to be in the military, and of course most women (black and white) were so impressed that they would be able serve with their male comrades.
And yet I wasn’t so impressed because I couldn’t help but think, why now?( I will post an entire post very soon on black women joining the military because I think there is some vital information for black women to know concerning this very topic.)
Why when there are plenty of signals that sexism is alive and well? Why considering the STILL huge problem of rape in the military would they suddenly allow women to be in the military?
At the time I had no answers. But I knew that sexists don’t suddenly CARE for no good reason.
And the a few things occurred to me. 1. Considering the fact that US is in numerous different wars and is in tenuous situations with Iran, it could this lift could simply because they want more bodies.
2. It also occurred to me that if they do this and then decide to lift the ban on the draft, they will most likely draft women too. Because they are now allowed into combat.
3. Someone else pointed this out ( and I will go into this fully in my military post) The fastest growing segment of women in the military are not white women feminists who want to pull a GI Jane. No, the fastest growing segment of women in the military are BLACK WOMEN. In fact the numbers are quite skewed considering the population of black women in the US.
But of course feminists, ( especially black women) never consider critically thinking. Similar to a google search that only comes up with certain hits when they hear words ( search terms) like “hand to hand combat” “Sexism” “Capable.” “BAN LIFTED” all they compute in their simplistic minds is “must be feminism.” or “women are REALLY kicking ass against sexism”
In reality these same women who would allow someone to cut their breaks and then drive straight off a cliff if it meant proving that they had as much free choice as the men who just careened off before them. What’s worse they don’t see the disaster this will lead to for women, who are specifically black.( who don’t have a mattress [aka race privilege] to land on when they go over) and who ironically have the hardest time in the military.
But to tell a feminist any of this and they become SAD PANDA who can’t really realize why everyone has it out for women and their rights or why everyone is waging a war against women when really they are committing the crimes against humanity on themselves with supporting poor choices based simply on the puffed up rhetoric that surrounds/ and hides the true results of these conversations.
More’s the pity.
It’s actually quite sad. Or it would be if I didn’t recognize the privilege involved to even make such stupid, asinine decisions. I pointed out in my black women edition that black women would support their own stupidity and secretly wonder why everyone trampled them.
And I have to say that feminists will do the same thing. Except unlike black women, feminists will allow themselves to be trampled and bamboozled and skin and grin the entire time, Meanwhile convincing themselves that they’ve come to the conclusion themselves. And mistakenly believe that their impervious to harm.
How’s that for empowering.?
Until Next Time.
Ps. This is part of Series previous edition: The Black Women Edition
Note image above, while adorable does not belong to me.