Smile When You Say That :The Black Women Edition

Take a minute to look at the statue of this man.

Now, let’s play a little game. How many of you knew that this statue, located in New York  was of  Marion Simmons, who is considered the “father of gynecology”.

 Not many. 

Now….How many people, if they knew Marion Simmons was the “father of gynecology” (or not) knew that he was also a man who became the “Father of gynecology”  from his EXPERIMENTS ON BLACK WOMEN!?

Yes, you’re reading my words right. This man created his career, got his accolades and built his future place in history, experimenting and playing god with the lives of black women, who through no fault of their own had no agency and were forced to go through his painful procedures, which were carried out most of the time without anesthesia.

Yes this fair doctor helped many a white woman in his day. But like most things in life someone came out the winner and someone came out the loser.

 And as it is in many cases black women came out the loser.

Now my point isn’t specifically to give you a history lesson. Actually  it’s to point something out.

The alarming trend of black women, to accept anything. And I mean virtually anything.

I’m not talking about the poor slave women who were forced into that. I’m talking about the fact that presently thousands of black women walk past his likeness every single day and have no idea that this statue, this tool of admiration that sits so proudly in New York is really an amalgamation of the past present (and at the rate of how we’re  going)  and future of black women everywhere.

 And even worse, Black women don’t even KNOW it. And if they do they simply don’t care.

 But onelesssoldier, you’re surely exaggerating.

 No Jenny, I’m not. What is the worse than the fact that most black women don’t even know the history of the statue that is being praised, the statue of the man who believed that black women were worthless creatures to be used at the expense of others.

What is worse than the fact that many black women of today have no idea who Sara Baartman was and what she symbolizes now.

The worst part is that black women have somehow still managed to internalize the message behind it, or if they know about the abuse, the degradation and humiliation that black women have faced in society they don’t mind they even support  it.

I’ve been thinking about this, which was brought to my attention by a link on for Black Women Only Facebook ( thank you to them) and I was also thinking about the reactions to the Steubenville debacle and I realized something.

Most black women will support anything.  Further most black women will accept anything.

I’m not joking most black women will probably support anything. No matter how insulting, black women don’t mind “cosigning” it.

First example?

Take the recent video that went viral of the black girls who were BEATEN by their father for “twerking”  on camera. They were beaten with an extension cord and had marks on their body from the attack. Later it was found at that the girls actually snuck out and that was why they were beaten.

Now you would think that seeing the obvious abuse of someone who looks like them and, in not very different circumstances, could have been them, black women would be stricken. Heck, you would think that considering that black women have a very high rate of becoming domestic violence/ abuse victims that black women  would collectively revolt at the image of these girls being whipped to shreds. You would think that black women would be appalled and concerned.

If you thought that the majority of black women would react normally and sanely  you would be wrong. Many black women were not only unconcerned they were supportive of the father.

Their twisted and demented logic was that these young ladies ( and black society as a whole)  should be grateful to have a father at all. They should be grateful that a black penis is willing to abuse them.

 And speaking of abusive black penises. 

 II.

 I already spoke in a previous article about the delusional black woman who sympathized with the (black) Steubenville rapist because he was going to have to join the ” prison industrial complex.”   (Her words)

But now, let’s talk about the black women who love to rationalize and okay their own demise.  There is a black man on YouTube, quite a popular man actually. This man likes to talk about black women. He likes to talk about how much he hates, and reviles black women. And do you know what one black woman, who made her own video, had to say? Well it was nothing good. It was more along the lines of her pretty much saying that she could see why he was popular. (She gave various reasons)

No defense as a black woman being insulted without pause by the thousands of people who visit this man’s video(s). No! It would be too easy to speak up for black women like her. I’m sure that woman thought she was being ” fair” and “logical” in her assessment of the abusive black man on YouTube, and yet her faulty logic and attempts to be level headed, and her comments that she could “respect his hustle” will just continue with more videos like that. Why wouldn’t they? Especially when those type of men have the OK from dumb black women like her.

Or if that example doesn’t fit your fancy let’s talk about how one of the new covers of ebony magazine is Kevin “Dark Skinned Hos” Hart. Yes, Black women have decided the TV shows and awards aren’t enough. We’ve decided to now invite him into our ” dojo”. In another way to show the world that black women have absolutely  no self-pride, no HOPE for a better future for ourselves, that we respect and value our OWN existence, black women gladly and willingly put men like Kevin Hart on the cover of Ebony magazine.  But at least Ebony sold out for a buck. The readers on the other hand will pay to be treated like shit.

More’s the pity.

III.

But that still isn’t enough…..

Because for some black women self-destructive tendencies are just not enough. The dysfunction spills out in every aspect of life, hell even the “educated” ones aren’t intelligent enough to realize that they’re going nowhere fast but still partying like it’s 1999.

Despite the fact that many black women have gotten an education, doesn’t negate the fact that certain dysfunctional behaviors are alive and well within the population of many black women.

If you want to identify these women, these pestiferous mutating bundles of uselessness,  it’s not that hard to spot them. These women litter  “Womanist” blogs,  “black feminist” sites, or they simply run websites that claim to be “for” black women’s interests. These women have certain LIMITED vocabularies that include words like “rhetoric,”  “problematic”  “consenting adults” and “shaming”.

These women like to beguile others into believing that they’re  educated because they took a white Women’s History course while in college getting their lame degrees and “empowering” themselves. These women are the same ones who  came to the conclusion, after years of unhappiness and beating their collective heads against the wall before they realized that white feminism isn’t granting them anything, to move  on to ” bigger and better things”.

These women, after seeing feminism for the Dustbowl that it truly is, decided to migrate to “California” aka “Womanism/Black Feminism” in the hopes of greener pastures.

These women are just as bad as the ones who are willing to support violence because these women feel that their education justifies their skewed thought process.

But the biggest way that you can identify with these women is that they are still having the same damn conversation that went on years ago but never actually changed anything. These women like the one in the “Crunk Feminist Collective” article that I’ve linked below are using their education to talk to the same rappers that have given a collective finger to black women since day one. These same “educated women” are talking about how these rappers could change their ways. Except they won’t

(Note: I changed my mind. I won’t link the article because I don’t want the trackback or the viewers from that blog but the title is

Five Ways Talib Kweli Can become a Better Ally to Women in hip hop)

Yet these educated black women can’t even realize that they are wasting their time and have masses of deluded black women wasting their time too.

Because they have to be deluded to waste their youth and potential happiness being activists for causes that can never come to fruition complaining to people who just. DON’T. CARE.

IV.

And the waste of time isn’t the only thing that stands out. I have also noticed the fact that black women are only willing to waste their time when other people tell them to.

Let’s talk about the Steubenville case for one more minute. Generally when the news broke about the case women were rightly disgusted. What surprised me was the reaction from black women. Not because they didn’t care, but because they did.

The majority of the women speaking out were the same women who happily went along with BLACK women being raped.

See WhatAboutOurDaughters articles talking about a black women at ebony magazine who back Gernarlow Wilson but didn’t for the Steubenville rapists. It seems many black women only take their cues of good and bad from the people around them.( as if it ever does them any good). If rape is okay in the black community it is okay for black women. If white women won’t accept being rape victims,  then it’s time to stand for justice.

http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/waod/2013/3/22/their-silence-speaks-for-itself-zerlina-maxwell-and-ebony-ma.html

http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/waod/2013/3/18/zerlina-maxwell-and-ebony-magazines-hypocrisy-on-steubenvill.html

http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/waod/2012/7/30/there-is-an-us-there-is-a-them-solidarity-is-not-an-excuse-t.html

http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/waod/2013/3/20/zerlina-maxwells-inconvenient-truth-lm-and-how-black-media-e.html

All of the years that black women stood for black women being called bitches and hoes and now because of a highly profiled case involving the white community and now black women suddenly care.  Now suddenly Rick Ross rape lyrics matter, now Lil Wayne is important to discuss.

Before the only reason Lil Wayne and his Emmitt till offensive lyrics got any attention was because it insulted a black man.

The most glaringly and insulting thing about the entire affair, and affairs similar to this, is that black women only care when the victims are white women or black men.Many black women only care now and are calling for these men’s head on a bounty because it’s “en vogue” to give a damn.

And yet, I’m not fooled.

V.

But many black women still are because they react in the stupidest ways to things that may actually help them. Recently a white man (uh oh) asked the question about some reporter being touted as black when really she was biracial.

Of course the backlash was swift and cutting. He was called to task for debating race and because of all the people to do it was a white man. And yet from where I’m standing I can’t say that he’s wrong.

This woman is biracial.The fact that in the past and currently FULL black women are being replaced in the media by biracial women who “see themselves as black” does not escape my sight. Neither does the fact that because of this now people believe that the only attractive black women MUST be “mixed with something” for black women not to see how “problematic” it is for black women to have their standard set by women who ARE NOT FULLY BLACK, leaves me gasping at the oversight. The fact that Black women are willing to let anyone represent them, even people who because they are half white have the privilege of being seen in mainstream media and represent ALL black women amazes me.

These women are so busy letting their minds implode because a white penis said the words that they don’t even realize that he *actually* has a point.

Which is just plain sad. Because this man said something that black women have been complaining about for years (not having any true representation) but it went over their head because of the person holding the mike.

Yes, most black women don’t even notice or care that they are being treated like shit. And worse when someone actually points it out they get insane.

I also don’t believe that all of these women have simply been brainwashed. Yes some have to some extent but there are plenty of black women who KNOW something is amiss. For those women, who are cognizant of something being wrong and then simply, and idly sit by (or even fight someone who might point out something helpful) is just plain sad.

Sadder is that I know that for many this won’t change. My words may hit some, a few, but the majority of black women will go along with their days, their “busy lives” their “educations.” They’ll whistle as they walk past the Marion Simms statue while tourists take pictures of it. They’ll hit the clubs and dance along to the music that stomps their very existence into the ground. And when they get home they’ll happily clean the mud stains from their raggedy dresses without complaint.

But in the back of their mind they’ll always wonder why they were never truly respected.

And I’ll always know that the reason why was a sad mix of being programmed from birth not to give a damn about ourselves, and simply not caring.

Until Next Time….

Ps. this is part of a series.

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15 thoughts on “Smile When You Say That :The Black Women Edition

  1. Excellent post. As a recent discussion with educated BW regarding why they should not financially support ” Slavery Redux ” where the director decided to invoke the n-word approximately every 90 seconds for the duration of the movie ( they couldn’t understand my problem with it 😳) BW in particular & BP in general have no ability to think CRITICALLY when it pertains to US. The natural tendency for self preservation is absent in most BW. It has been conditioned out of the vast majority. Thank you for the history lesson on Marion Sims. I was unaware of that particular history. I certainly hope that some can be helped if they are fortunate enough to find your blog & others like them. Very few BW that I come across in person have even a hint of a clue, including the ones who I find to be quite astute on many other issues. I look forward to the other posts for this series.

    • The natural tendency for self preservation is absent in most BW. It has been conditioned out of the vast majority.

      This!

      Thank you for the history lesson on Marion Sims. I was unaware of that particular history.

      You’re welcome. I had no idea that this statue or this man even existed. I don’t live in new york so i’d never seen it. That post on FBWO had me doing some research of my own and I was horrified. I want that statue ripped down.

  2. “Yes, most black women don’t even notice or care that they are being treated like shit. And worse when someone actually points it out they get insane.”

    YES! It is so ridiculous, you can’t help but wonder at the sanity of such people. And it’s not just when WM point out issues that BW NEED to be concerned about that BW get crazy with them.

    I have come across BW who will become enraged if a non-BM (especially White) says he loves the curves of BW, or our honesty and integrity, or anything really. But if a BM says he doesn’t like BW because we are too [fill in the blank], “he has a right to his opinion.” It totally blows my mind. The programming of such BW is pretty much complete. The BC got the job done.

    I long ago came to the conclusion (high school) that most AA Black women are their own worst enemy, and some have made themselves pretty good enemies to other Black women as well. It’s sad to think that thought, but even sadder to know that it’s a provable fact.

    I love Black women, primarily because I am one, but also because I think we have so many amazing and unique qualities rolled into us. And to witness so many of us trying to destroy those qualities in each other or hiding them under a bushel, so as not to offend the haters, makes me both sad and furious.

    I really don’t know what it will take to wake up, what seems like the majority of, Black American women. There is great danger in denial. And even more danger in going along to get along. Just ask a Holocaust survivor.

    Great post! One of the reasons I love your blog is because you are so informative. I had never even heard of that despicable doctor. SMH. That statue of the cold blooded bastard needs to be torn down and melted.

    • I have come across BW who will become enraged if a non-BM (especially White) says he loves the curves of BW, or our honesty and integrity, or anything really. But if a BM says he doesn’t like BW because we are too [fill in the blank], “he has a right to his opinion.” It totally blows my mind. The programming of such BW is pretty much complete. The BC got the job done.

      Yes! anything positive is objectifying but when people malign darker black women it is an ” opinion” that needs to be respected. SMH.

      I really don’t know what it will take to wake up, what seems like the majority of, Black American women. There is great danger in denial. And even more danger in going along to get along. Just ask a Holocaust survivor.

      Great post! One of the reasons I love your blog is because you are so informative. I had never even heard of that despicable doctor. SMH. That statue of the cold blooded bastard needs to be torn down and melted.

      What’s really going to be worse is the fall out when they finally hit rock bottom.

      Glad you liked it. I’m always happy to hep pass on information that black women should know (Truthfully i hadn’t known about this until FBWO linked someone elses posts but this but stuff like this shouldn’t be ignored.

  3. For those interested in learning more about this so-called “doctor” among other creatures like him, I highly recommend the following book:

    Medical Apartheid: The Dark History of Medical Experimentation on Black Americans from Colonial Times to the Present by Harriet A. Washington

  4. I am glad to become informed about the doctor. I will write to find out how to go about taking
    down this offensive statue. Even though I do not live in New York, when you offend one Black Woman, we are all offended because we have made too many great contributions and
    we need to become more aware of our collective image. Self preservation has been conditioned out of us. I care for aging parents and when I told my father that I will be going to the doctor for myself, he said when I am going to take my mother to the dentist. huh?
    If the caregiver is down ,my mother has 2 other children by the way , then what good willI I be?
    So I was somewhat shocked but not totally shocked. Like you said self preservation has been conditioned out of Black Women. Black women also have too many silent partners and we ourselves have become silent partners. Some not all. Our mothers, grandmothers, aunties have co sign with n*****s*** for so long we do not have critical thinking skills because we have allowed the bm to get away far too long and then when we try to correct the situation then they are laughing at us because they can’t take us seriously because other groups of women demonstrate the consequences when you cross the line with them. Black women have not set any boundaries and get mad when other p*** on us and call it rain.

    • Shaylah, with all due respect I am going to have to disagree with some of the things you are saying. “Silent partner”? I do not think so! How about every time a Black woman opened her mouth before/during the Civil Rights era about her own oppression an image or story about Black males being lynched by the KKK was shoved in her face? Our mothers, grandmothers, aunties, etc were not simply co-signing with this for the sake of doing it, they were doing it because they had been CONNED into thiking it was in the best interests of the Black race. It was not about “allowing” these Black males to do anything, it was the sad f
      act that they used White racism and the love they KNEW most Black women & girls have for them to further a dishonest agenda under the guise of “Black civil rights”/”racial equality” when what they REALLY wanted was access to White women/non-Black women. Also, you CANNOT “set boundaries” with someone who HATES your guts and uses all kinds of emotionally-charged imagery, rhetoric, & buzzwords to hide that hatred. Bottom line is that Black women have NOT “allowed” Black males to get away with ANYTHING. What REALLY happened is that these Black male charlatans have used the twisted history between Whites & Blacks and the facts of White racism/slavery against Blacks to pull off perhaps the most dihonest and disgusting hustle against another group of human beings (Black women & girls ) of all time. THAT is what REALLY happened!

  5. I am thourougly disgusted that that anti-Black female racist/sexist DOG has a statue honoring it!

    Onelesssoldier, I can understand your sentiment and frustreation, but what I am about to say simply has to say. If Black women have been programmed for decades/centuries to NOT care about themselves, coupled with haveing the misfortune of having to share a race with a bunch of males who HATE THEIR GUTS and make NO attempt whatsoever to hide this
    sick hatred, coupled with the fact of living in a racist White society that refuses to see them as even human, let alone as women & girls in need of protection/respect then is it any wonder that the pysche of the Black female collective appears to be one of indifference? I am going to have to disagree with you that the majority of Black women simply do
    not care, I think it is that they believe that they CANNOT care, or do not KNOW how to care. How can they, when they have it beaten into their heads from girlhood that: They are ugly, worhtless, mules whose only purpose is to serve the interests of Black males who have have klansmen lurking around every corner wanting their heads (which is a LIE) How can they when they are taught that caring about their own issues and civil rights is taboo because it will “cause division” in the Black race? How can they when they are taught NOT to question the hatred Black males have for them, that said hatred is the “White man’s fault”?
    How can they when the greater (White society) is telling them that they DO NOT matter, that the ONLY “good” part of the Black race is the MALE part, as they so clearly think in their media which uplifts and makes Black males VERY visible with positive, omnipresent portrayals while either erasing Black females completely or relegating them to unflattering roles as comic relief characters or horrible villians? And worse,how liberal White society loves to protect and victimize the WORST Black male predators as some sort of romantic, noble political prisoners of horrible oppression while at the same time ignoring their Black female victims/portraying them as non-female others who are “incapable” of being raped? How can they when EVERY SINGLE TIME a Black woman or girl opens her mouth about the abuse she has to face JUST BECAUSE she is a Black woman/girl she is told to SHUT UP/and or told she is “whining” “complaining” is told by the Black power/Civil rights groups/Black people in general that she is “bashing” Black men/”dividing the Black race”/”playing the White man’s game”? that she is being a “mean excluding racist” by the feminist groups, that she is “doing the same thing that was/is done to her” by the womanist groups, and that she is a rabble-rousing “angry Black woman” by that so-called anti-racist/multicultural/multiracist crowd? And worst of all, when she is told that she is being “hateful”, “negative”, or just “empty venting” (as if something is wrong with venting, smh) by so-called “BWE” groups? If you think about it, Black women & girls being able to look out for their own interests at all in any way shape or form, let alone the way so many other groups do, is an extremely tall order in the face of all of that mess to say the least, and all of that same mess I pointed out earlier is a perfect explanation for the state of mind of the Black female collective as it sadly stands today.
    Black women & girls did NOT get into this pickle by themselves and it appears that it is going to take many years and a lot of hard work to unduo all of the damage that has been wreacked on Black women & girls for so long by so many.

    not care, I

    sick

    • I meant “multiracial”, not “multiracist” crowd. Also, ignore the

      “not care I”
      “sick” at the bottom of my post. Some sort of spacing problem I had/heve when commenting.

    • I am thourougly disgusted that that anti-Black female racist/sexist DOG has a statue honoring it!

      Onelesssoldier, I can understand your sentiment and frustreation, but what I am about to say simply has to say. If Black women have been programmed for decades/centuries to NOT care about themselves, coupled with haveing the misfortune of having to share a race with a bunch of males who HATE THEIR GUTS and make NO attempt whatsoever to hide this

      i am going to write a post because I feel that this is an over symplification.

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