Take a minute to look at the statue of this man.
Now, let’s play a little game. How many of you knew that this statue, located in New York was of Marion Simmons, who is considered the “father of gynecology”.
Now….How many people, if they knew Marion Simmons was the “father of gynecology” (or not) knew that he was also a man who became the “Father of gynecology” from his EXPERIMENTS ON BLACK WOMEN!?
Yes, you’re reading my words right. This man created his career, got his accolades and built his future place in history, experimenting and playing god with the lives of black women, who through no fault of their own had no agency and were forced to go through his painful procedures, which were carried out most of the time without anesthesia.
Yes this fair doctor helped many a white woman in his day. But like most things in life someone came out the winner and someone came out the loser.
And as it is in many cases black women came out the loser.
Now my point isn’t specifically to give you a history lesson. Actually it’s to point something out.
The alarming trend of black women, to accept anything. And I mean virtually anything.
I’m not talking about the poor slave women who were forced into that. I’m talking about the fact that presently thousands of black women walk past his likeness every single day and have no idea that this statue, this tool of admiration that sits so proudly in New York is really an amalgamation of the past present (and at the rate of how we’re going) and future of black women everywhere.
And even worse, Black women don’t even KNOW it. And if they do they simply don’t care.
But onelesssoldier, you’re surely exaggerating.
No Jenny, I’m not. What is the worse than the fact that most black women don’t even know the history of the statue that is being praised, the statue of the man who believed that black women were worthless creatures to be used at the expense of others.
What is worse than the fact that many black women of today have no idea who Sara Baartman was and what she symbolizes now.
The worst part is that black women have somehow still managed to internalize the message behind it, or if they know about the abuse, the degradation and humiliation that black women have faced in society they don’t mind they even support it.
I’ve been thinking about this, which was brought to my attention by a link on for Black Women Only Facebook ( thank you to them) and I was also thinking about the reactions to the Steubenville debacle and I realized something.
Most black women will support anything. Further most black women will accept anything.
I’m not joking most black women will probably support anything. No matter how insulting, black women don’t mind “cosigning” it.
Take the recent video that went viral of the black girls who were BEATEN by their father for “twerking” on camera. They were beaten with an extension cord and had marks on their body from the attack. Later it was found at that the girls actually snuck out and that was why they were beaten.
Now you would think that seeing the obvious abuse of someone who looks like them and, in not very different circumstances, could have been them, black women would be stricken. Heck, you would think that considering that black women have a very high rate of becoming domestic violence/ abuse victims that black women would collectively revolt at the image of these girls being whipped to shreds. You would think that black women would be appalled and concerned.
If you thought that the majority of black women would react normally and sanely you would be wrong. Many black women were not only unconcerned they were supportive of the father.
Their twisted and demented logic was that these young ladies ( and black society as a whole) should be grateful to have a father at all. They should be grateful that a black penis is willing to abuse them.
And speaking of abusive black penises.
I already spoke in a previous article about the delusional black woman who sympathized with the (black) Steubenville rapist because he was going to have to join the ” prison industrial complex.” (Her words)
But now, let’s talk about the black women who love to rationalize and okay their own demise. There is a black man on YouTube, quite a popular man actually. This man likes to talk about black women. He likes to talk about how much he hates, and reviles black women. And do you know what one black woman, who made her own video, had to say? Well it was nothing good. It was more along the lines of her pretty much saying that she could see why he was popular. (She gave various reasons)
No defense as a black woman being insulted without pause by the thousands of people who visit this man’s video(s). No! It would be too easy to speak up for black women like her. I’m sure that woman thought she was being ” fair” and “logical” in her assessment of the abusive black man on YouTube, and yet her faulty logic and attempts to be level headed, and her comments that she could “respect his hustle” will just continue with more videos like that. Why wouldn’t they? Especially when those type of men have the OK from dumb black women like her.
Or if that example doesn’t fit your fancy let’s talk about how one of the new covers of ebony magazine is Kevin “Dark Skinned Hos” Hart. Yes, Black women have decided the TV shows and awards aren’t enough. We’ve decided to now invite him into our ” dojo”. In another way to show the world that black women have absolutely no self-pride, no HOPE for a better future for ourselves, that we respect and value our OWN existence, black women gladly and willingly put men like Kevin Hart on the cover of Ebony magazine. But at least Ebony sold out for a buck. The readers on the other hand will pay to be treated like shit.
More’s the pity.
But that still isn’t enough…..
Because for some black women self-destructive tendencies are just not enough. The dysfunction spills out in every aspect of life, hell even the “educated” ones aren’t intelligent enough to realize that they’re going nowhere fast but still partying like it’s 1999.
Despite the fact that many black women have gotten an education, doesn’t negate the fact that certain dysfunctional behaviors are alive and well within the population of many black women.
If you want to identify these women, these pestiferous mutating bundles of uselessness, it’s not that hard to spot them. These women litter “Womanist” blogs, “black feminist” sites, or they simply run websites that claim to be “for” black women’s interests. These women have certain LIMITED vocabularies that include words like “rhetoric,” “problematic” “consenting adults” and “shaming”.
These women like to beguile others into believing that they’re educated because they took a white Women’s History course while in college getting their lame degrees and “empowering” themselves. These women are the same ones who came to the conclusion, after years of unhappiness and beating their collective heads against the wall before they realized that white feminism isn’t granting them anything, to move on to ” bigger and better things”.
These women, after seeing feminism for the Dustbowl that it truly is, decided to migrate to “California” aka “Womanism/Black Feminism” in the hopes of greener pastures.
These women are just as bad as the ones who are willing to support violence because these women feel that their education justifies their skewed thought process.
But the biggest way that you can identify with these women is that they are still having the same damn conversation that went on years ago but never actually changed anything. These women like the one in the “Crunk Feminist Collective” article that I’ve linked below are using their education to talk to the same rappers that have given a collective finger to black women since day one. These same “educated women” are talking about how these rappers could change their ways. Except they won’t
(Note: I changed my mind. I won’t link the article because I don’t want the trackback or the viewers from that blog but the title is
Five Ways Talib Kweli Can become a Better Ally to Women in hip hop)
Yet these educated black women can’t even realize that they are wasting their time and have masses of deluded black women wasting their time too.
Because they have to be deluded to waste their youth and potential happiness being activists for causes that can never come to fruition complaining to people who just. DON’T. CARE.
And the waste of time isn’t the only thing that stands out. I have also noticed the fact that black women are only willing to waste their time when other people tell them to.
Let’s talk about the Steubenville case for one more minute. Generally when the news broke about the case women were rightly disgusted. What surprised me was the reaction from black women. Not because they didn’t care, but because they did.
The majority of the women speaking out were the same women who happily went along with BLACK women being raped.
See WhatAboutOurDaughters articles talking about a black women at ebony magazine who back Gernarlow Wilson but didn’t for the Steubenville rapists. It seems many black women only take their cues of good and bad from the people around them.( as if it ever does them any good). If rape is okay in the black community it is okay for black women. If white women won’t accept being rape victims, then it’s time to stand for justice.
All of the years that black women stood for black women being called bitches and hoes and now because of a highly profiled case involving the white community and now black women suddenly care. Now suddenly Rick Ross rape lyrics matter, now Lil Wayne is important to discuss.
Before the only reason Lil Wayne and his Emmitt till offensive lyrics got any attention was because it insulted a black man.
The most glaringly and insulting thing about the entire affair, and affairs similar to this, is that black women only care when the victims are white women or black men.Many black women only care now and are calling for these men’s head on a bounty because it’s “en vogue” to give a damn.
And yet, I’m not fooled.
But many black women still are because they react in the stupidest ways to things that may actually help them. Recently a white man (uh oh) asked the question about some reporter being touted as black when really she was biracial.
Of course the backlash was swift and cutting. He was called to task for debating race and because of all the people to do it was a white man. And yet from where I’m standing I can’t say that he’s wrong.
This woman is biracial.The fact that in the past and currently FULL black women are being replaced in the media by biracial women who “see themselves as black” does not escape my sight. Neither does the fact that because of this now people believe that the only attractive black women MUST be “mixed with something” for black women not to see how “problematic” it is for black women to have their standard set by women who ARE NOT FULLY BLACK, leaves me gasping at the oversight. The fact that Black women are willing to let anyone represent them, even people who because they are half white have the privilege of being seen in mainstream media and represent ALL black women amazes me.
These women are so busy letting their minds implode because a white penis said the words that they don’t even realize that he *actually* has a point.
Which is just plain sad. Because this man said something that black women have been complaining about for years (not having any true representation) but it went over their head because of the person holding the mike.
Yes, most black women don’t even notice or care that they are being treated like shit. And worse when someone actually points it out they get insane.
I also don’t believe that all of these women have simply been brainwashed. Yes some have to some extent but there are plenty of black women who KNOW something is amiss. For those women, who are cognizant of something being wrong and then simply, and idly sit by (or even fight someone who might point out something helpful) is just plain sad.
Sadder is that I know that for many this won’t change. My words may hit some, a few, but the majority of black women will go along with their days, their “busy lives” their “educations.” They’ll whistle as they walk past the Marion Simms statue while tourists take pictures of it. They’ll hit the clubs and dance along to the music that stomps their very existence into the ground. And when they get home they’ll happily clean the mud stains from their raggedy dresses without complaint.
But in the back of their mind they’ll always wonder why they were never truly respected.
And I’ll always know that the reason why was a sad mix of being programmed from birth not to give a damn about ourselves, and simply not caring.
Until Next Time….
Ps. this is part of a series.