I’m already angry and even angrier that I’m going to have to give a disclaimer:
If you don’t like me quoting Jezebel or any other mainstream feminist site that reflects the majority of feminists, Screw You.
If you easily have your feelings hurt, like to mammy for a good “cause” , enjoy being “politically correct”, or have some brain defect in which you don’t know the difference between “preferences” and “racism/colorism”, then please remove yourself from my site.
For those of you who continue you use your fully functioning brains please continue. ( Again like my previous posts this will be long and in sections.)
I. I’m starting to believe that most people are stupid. No, that’s a lie. I already thought most people were stupid but I’m starting to see the proof every day of the year that I was correct in my assumption. What am I talking about? I’m talking about the continual, willing and blatant support of people, groups, institutions, and organizations that continually and with malicious forethought,( or no forethought at all) go out of their way to hurt, harm, maim, abuse (verbally or otherwise), erase, or exploit black women and then instead of black women eradicating or pulling support they go along with such abuse. Or in some way think that they are “intelligent” “informed” or helping the “cause”.
Quite simply put these women, black women, who think this behavior is alright are FOOLS.
No that wasn’t a typo. I really mean it. As every day goes on black women are continually in denial about the abuse that they are facing and like the Charlie Brown picture above, the continually try to kick that football.
Not only do they fall on their ass but defending the fact that Lucy (aka any movement that has shown that they think black women should fuck off with words or actions) is actually their friend and that they’re in it for them. They also have some misguided notion that the reason why they’re overlooked, overworked or underpaid by these movements / people that they’ve aligned with are just misunderstood and a good ole conversation will straighten everything out, instead of realizing that this isn’t Leave it to Beaver and sometimes a conversation just won’t be enough when people just don’t give a damn. This makes me enraged and deranged when I’m subjected to this obvious gaslighting.
Example number one: I was on a Colorlines article linked from “feministing” (*gasp* to the readers who think I only haunt Jezebel. I do manage to find my way onto other sites and *gasp* they’re always spouting the same crap) and came across an article on the “Stop and Frisk”
and other article
in New York City and people of color. Of course you would think that they would talk about or at least link an article about, oh I don’t know, women of color and the stop and frisk but yet again they managed to turn it into how black men are being disproportionately targeted. Whoops my bad, I should say that they got an “honorable mention” in the articles of how hard it is for black men to be black men but for the most part black women where nowhere to be seen the article had video about black men who’d been stop and frisked, and the only woman they interviewed only talked about how their male friend got frisked.
Forget the fact that there have been articles talking about how black women have been stopped and frisked the article address black men and the only visibility black women got were in relation or juxtaposition to black men and how it felt to have to watch black men be pawed and stereotyped.
(And please don’t come at me with the bullshit that Feministing or any other feminist site helps black women because they’re mentioned other times [I have seen the articles]because the silence from them when black men target black women is deafening and speaks a thousand words.)
Because black women don’t get pawed, stereotyped or falsely accused amiright?
Of course though if you’re wondering why they didn’t mention black women on this issue on a feminist site ( and I will YET AGAIN point out that Jezebel and the Feminist wire are virtually no different when it comes down to black women and they’re lack of care) I will point out again that to feminists even black feminists all the blacks are MEN that means that if you had some misguided hope of thinking that the shallow feminist movement, who spends the majority of their time cattily fighting about sex positivism vs. non sex positivism and whether or not the Beyonce is really a feminist when she called her tour “Mrs. Carter”, then you were delusionally mistaken!
For even black women “feminists” who should realize a thing about intersectionality don’t even give a damn. They are willing to throw themselves on the line to represent those poor black men while falling on a blade. That song Grenade by Bruno Mars is coming to mind right now because literally black literally put their head on a blade for anyone with a cause and a dream.
I won’t even talk about Color lines at the pure Irony that they didn’t include black women in this article either because the irony also speaks a thousand words. And it’s also completely expected.
Instead let’s move on.
Let’s talk about the white women feminist on the feminist wire that talked about violence in South Africa one of the RAPE CAPITALS OF the world and see what she had to say.
Was it anything good, or helpful that would help black women in any way shape or form get help?
Sorry Jimmy, that would mean the sun was revolving around the moon and that gravity didn’t exist and what goes up never comes down. Instead the “informative” article was used to touch on the violence without actually calling anyone out.
Let’s take a look: ( Note I bold and underline stuff that stood out)
Another reason to question the link between (black) poverty and (emasculatory) violence against women is the fact that in surrounding countries, with comparable levels of unemployment, reported violence against women is lower. In addition, anecdotal evidence from (rape) hotline counselors suggests that white middle class women are by no means accepted; “Yes, white man rape and beat too.
Therefore, rather than thinking about ‘black or African masculinities’, we might want to move our focus away from race and zoom in on the nation and its uniquely violent (and patriarchal) history instead.
Today, white violence doesn’t seem to make it into the media all that often. The reason why Oscar’s case made worldwide headlines was obviously due to his fame, which he acquired through his success as a disabled yet successful sports man. Reeva’s death at the hands of this famous, upper-middle class white star, attests to the fact that violence against women is not confined to the black underclass. Especially now that the veil is slowly lifted from Oscar’s aggressive streaks and gun obsession, it should be clear that masculine violence cuts across all racial, classed or cultural groups within the borders of the state. The possible role that his disability played in his macho bravado and how this might have driven him to overcompensate with hyper-masculine behaviour, is unclear. Yet by emphasizing the exceptionality of his position, we risk obscuring the fundamental ideas about manhood which he shared with most of his countrymen.
Nice job, feminism nice job. Yet again this is the classic way to “address” without addressing or torn a conversation that should go one way into turning it into something else. Instead of calling it like it T. I. Is, this well-meaning white lady has used this as a way to give raping black men a pass. And don’t tell me that “she didn’t mean it” “She didn’t intend it” BULLSHIT. I am damn tired of excusing people who think that they can avoid calling out dbr black men who have victimized black women (around the globe) and then settle on placations like “white men rape too”.
Further this woman went even further by saying that violence isn’t confined to the black underclass. What exactly does that mean? Obviously when three fourths of South Africa has been raped, you can bet your ASS that it isn’t confined to the poor blacks.( And yet this woman uses poor economic positions to explain why black men rape)
But further she decides to say this.
In addition, anecdotal evidence from (rape) hotline counselors suggests that white middle class women are by no means excepted; Yes, white man rape and beat too.
The combination of colonial violence, apartheid violence, resistance violence, institutionalized racism and militant white domination deeply influenced the masculine ideals of South African men and are undeniably responsible for the violence of today. But the extent to which class comfort protects white women from male violence, and how wealth and power contribute to violently patriarchal senses of entitlement and dangerous possessiveness are subject of ambiguity. And we will not find out if both media and researchers keep treating violence against women as a black affair.
What I’ve gleaned from this little snippet is this. “Racism causes black men to rape, they feel emasculated. It is still bad but let’s not think that only black women get raped by black men because that’s racist and lets also make sure that white women aren’t overlooked in the rape debate even though in SOUTH AFRICA they are the majority of the victims because ya’know that’s not fair to white women.
Qu’est-ce que cést?
Thanks for looking out feminism. Always looking out. And yet of course the black women are always littering these sites salivating and orgasming because they got a mention that really didn’t mention them at all. Instead they support filth like this article that basically didn’t say anything at all but talk in circles.
Because articles like this are circular. Let me explain… They shuffle around a few ideas, re-mention things that have been said, certain memes and thoughts, but really the “dialog” is still as stifled as before but nobody really notices. Everyone is too busy being politically correct to say this:
Ahem, Black men who are the MAJORITY in South Africa. STOP RAPING WOMEN it’s violent and illegal. That is all.
Listen, I don’t really give a damn if black men leave the rape conversation feeling good about themselves or feeling like they’re not being attacked or “singled out”. Because they don’t mind don’t bat an eyelash when physically attacking black women. And the good ones have certainly washed their hands of the whole mess. When the majority of black women in South Africa say they’ve been raped, when Anene Booysen scenarios happen, I’m taking off the kid gloves ( if I ever had them on) and I’m going to say the truth.
We don’t NEED TO be informed at this moment that white men rape. Or that because black men were trampled by white men we should be understanding when they trample us. To waste my time with this is not only obfuscating but tainting the issue. I also clearly see this attention grabber for what it is so white women feminists can now feel that they aren’t being overlooked.
Oh the irony…..
And yet step away from the feminist community and black women are still kickin’ that ole football. Charlie Brown is alive and well, and as stupid as ever.
Because when black women are not mammying for feminism they’re mammying for dead beats. And I don’t even mean by throwing themselves down for the cause. No they give their time and resources to people who abuse them. Clutch is wasting their time talking about dead beats and ass holes. Because if black women aren’t selling their souls to feminism then dead beat black men who have claimed to hate them take all their time and attention.
In the clutch article they mentioned that “Rick Ross”? has talked about date raping women in a song. And I wonder… why do websites geared towards “black women” waste their time telling black women about misogynistic, hateful black men? Why bother. Why are black women continually reporting commenting and getting angry/ boycotting people who have proven to hate black women? I have a question why are people even still listening to Rick Ross? Black women especially. Why are black women listening to any rapper? Most mainstream rappers hate black women and all that we stand for. Are black women so DUMB that that they will support anything or is this a severe case of Stockholm syndrome. If this is the latter, as a psychology student, I have to point you in the direction of the nearest therapist’s office for help because you are severely damaged.
I’m not kidding.
But even further these women not only give their time but they also spend the time talking to these men as if they care what you think. Take the recent video by a black man on YouTube that claims that light and white women are better than black women. The women on there were begging and pleading for him to change his mind.
Are these women a fool? That isn’t going to happen.
Or further they’ve gone completely and utterly in denial because deep down they are severely delusional. In one article a black women mentioned all the hate videos by black men on YouTube talking about black women and do you want to know what one black women concluded? Something to the effect of “are you sure they’re black men. Some of them could be disguised as white men.”
SMH I won’t even deny that the racists flock to YOUTUBE, but I will get a good gut laugh at the fact that this delusional black woman thinks that the videos of black men SHOWING THEIR FACE and bashing black women like the guy in the video I described above are really white men.
Because when black men make videos maligning black women and black women have to confront the fact that there are plenty of bm who agree with these videos, when all else fails lie to yourself.
Stop it. You’re making an ass of yourself. These black men have never had to disguise their hate. The DL Hughley’s can say what they want because broken women like this won’t do a damn thing or they know that they’ll get that ole “racism” pass.
I didn’t want to but let’s also talk about his clear colorism in that video. See this fool is clearly insulting all black women, he doesn’t just believe he is attracted to white women/ light women. No he’s actually concluding based on the “media “and his own “evidence “that dark black women are overall UGLY and that NOBODY anywhere likes them.
And yet people ( black women) still are defending this man ( aside from the ones in denial or begging him to change his mind) saying that this is a “preference”. Black women are defending this man.
Hell I’m sure that everyone has a preference. I think Latino men are particularly attractive. Hell, I also love blonde men. And yet never in my life have a made a video about how men who don’t fit into that standard are, ugly, losers, disgusting to look at, and are not worthy of love or attention to the rest of the world.
Liking a type is one thing. Abusing, degrading, maligning, and discriminating, or putting their worth and value in their looks is another. That is racism/colorism. There is no other word for that. This man didn’t just say I find these women attractive. He said that dark black women are ugly/ hideous/ unlikable to anyone else. To the black women that are trying to guilt you into not speaking out against this obvious difference is a liar and a gas lighter. Only a fool/ naïve loon can’t see the difference.
Meanwhile these delusions have led to a mass of these same black women haters to be able to effectively mainstream. If you haven’t read Beware of the two face Harvey article that I wrote read that now.
These abusers, who someone tried to say was actually losing in the long run to the white man that they work for (lol), are every day making it into mainstream because black women continue to let themselves be abused.
DL Hugley who claimed that nobody really likes black women at all because they’re unlikable, has effectively made it onto Dancing With the Stars.
Mike Tyson is getting a show,
Kevin “dark skinned black women are broke” Hart was at the Kids Choice Awards. Yes we’ve allowed him around children.
Only in the USA, can you actively say hate speech to black women ad get away with it. But are these feminist/civil rights identified black women protesting/ boycotting Dancing With The Stars doing million hoodie marches for that? Oh no , Jimmy.
These women are in the ranks laughing along, voting along, watching along with people who hate them.
Only in America do black women go along with violence against themselves.
But onelesssoldier why does this matter? You ask. Well it matters because when fools like this let crap pass it always turns into something else. It’s, how you say? A Gateway.
When they let hate speech go they let violence go. What am I talking about? Let’s talk about the black women and her take on Steubenville rapists.
Let’s take a gander at what this twit had to say
I, unlike many people reacting to today’s verdict, am not just thrilled to death that two 16-year-old boys are going to jail. What they did was terrible. There is no excuse. They have to be two seriously fucked-up kids to have done what they did. But what I know for damn sure is that jail does not fix broken people. It only breaks them harder.
The fact is that once these boys enter the prison system, even in juvenile detention, chances are that they will return to it. It will, with little doubt, fuck them up more than they are already fucked-up. They will not likely emerge from prison as two well-adjusted men who respect women and understand that sexual assault against them is not okay. That’s not what prison does for people.
As a Black woman, I especially am not thrilled to death to see another Black boy put in a cage. Black boys are disproportionately put in cages and I am not in any way happy that it’s happening again. What this boy did is terrible and I do not in any way excuse it. It is inexcusable. Thinking about it makes me feel crazy and hopeless. But adding another Black body to the Prison Industrial Complex just doesn’t make me feel any better about it. It only makes me feel worse.
The system of incarceration is an evil system. There is NOTHING good about it. It does not deter criminal behavior or fix it. It is a severely fucked-up, entirely ineffective, ever-growing, for-profit monster. And there is nothing good about two more people being locked-up in it.
Ma’Lik Richmond and Trent Mays need to be held to account for what they did, that’s for damn sure. And the girl who was sexually assaulted by them deserves justice. But justice does not and cannot exist in the system of incarceration, in the practice of putting people in cages. The Prison Industrial Complex continues to grow and grow and grow precisely because when very bad things happen we are all too happy to see the people responsible locked away and few of us ever consider the need to find better and more effective ways to deal with violence within communities.
This women is a mammy of the highest order willing to sympathize with black rapists because they have black skin.
Get a life.
Do you think that the rapists cared about the women they were raping? Do you think that the black boy who raped and knew full well about the “Prison industrial Complex” Didn’t know that they would GO TO JAIL? No. This black boy knew it was a crime did it, taped it and thought he was untouchable. He now pays the consequences. Let’s not use the racism card. (and yes in this situation It’s simply a get out of jail free card)
I refuse to use racism as a way to put black men on a pedestal especially when it means letting others get away with vicious crimes.
And speaking of vicious crimes What about Our daughter wrote about the hypocrisy of black women at Essence who supported gang rapist Genarlow Wilson but didn’t support the Steubenville Rapists. You should read the links below if you choose. Utterly informative and utterly sickening what she points out.
Upwards and onwards..
And speaking of pedestals I don’t know if you’ve heard the news about Amanda Knox being tried again for murder. I’m not even going to go into the double jeopardy aspect of the case. Simply not my concern. What I want to talk about is the reactions to the news. The American Media and Commenters have come to the conclusion that the “poor girl”(I quote this from a comment) is being harassed meanwhile the foreign media thinks she’s a slutty, seducing murderess. But at this point I don’t care about the foreign media. I don’t even care about her verdict. I want to talk about perceptions in the USA and pedestals. Let’s be honest, we all know why people automatically assume she was innocent. I won’t even lower myself to say it. But here’s a hint, it had nothing to do with any evidence, solid or otherwise and more to do with her skin and gender. And I won’t even attempt go into why the foreign media is painting her as seductress (which is most likely their distaste for Americans)
I will talk about the fact that pedestals have a lot to do with perception. A la how Casey Anthony walked free as a bird.
I’m sure that in Pussy Riot fashion Americans black white man or woman, will be called upon to rally around this “poor girl” who is being harassed.
Because when white womanhood is threatened we’re all threatened amiright? And I’m sure that black women are going to come out in droves to support this woman like they usually do when it’s time to mammy.
I would like to ask why?
Black women never benefit from helping other people on pedestals. I mean sure, you can claim that by helping them you “help yourself” in the future.(Even though I never see this later) Hell isn’t that what feminism/ civil rights/ womanism/ black feminism/ take your pick, has been selling black women for hundreds of years? But really and honestly black women never benefit.
Black women helping the status quo actually ends up hurting them.
Instead upholding ideals about white women and femininity and womanhood actually ends up hurting the black women who will never live up to that standard simply because they’re black. Or supporting abusive black males like the Stuebenville rapist because they’re protecting black men’s pedestal will never help because they will never get the benefit of it because they’re women.
Honestly. Because when we put rapists on a racism pedestal that means when they rape black women, black women can’t get help. We’ve seen this time and time again when black women want help in feminism or Civil rights and on the other side of the spectrum I could even say we’ve seen this happen to white men who now say they’re screwed because of biased divorce courts.
Not only is supporting and pedestals stupid but it also will come back and bite the supports in the butt because when those people hurt you well not a damn thing can be done. They’ve already been excused.
So what’s the whole point?
I don’t expect these black women to change, nor do I expect pedestals to be shifted or the sitters on to move themselves off. But I am warning black women with a modicum of sense to snap back to reality, stop kicking the football, and get a grip on their lives. You’re marginalizing yourself at this point. Helping people on pedestals won’t help, and defending those who have proven that they hate your guts certainly won’t give you anything. It’s best to accept that now.
Otherwise when you want justice, you might just be shit out of luck.
Until Next Time,