In recent weeks there have been continual debates between some black women (who claim to be for black women) about how black women shouldn’t release the hold that feminism should have over them. These debates usually entail black women who are fed up with non reciprocity and have decided to once and for all sever any ties and emotional connections to the feminist community ,and the recent results by some loud mouthed respondents has been to try and shame these women into staying in their place, firmly entrenched in a movement that has never purposefully or willingly given black women anything that could benefit them. And, in fact, has proven that they are actually themselves harmful.
This author here has written two very good posts on this very topic that I think you will enjoy reading.
Usually in these arguments that attempt to pull black women back on to the mule bandwagon always entail lines such as, “I don’t know why black women want to ditch feminism. Without feminism you wouldn’t be able to enjoy any of the privileges you have today.”
As things have come to a head in the BWE camp and out of it with other black women getting fed up at being screwed over by feminism, and as more black women have decided to be one less soldier in the useless feminism army, and as there are less and less logical evidence to prove that black women have ever gotten anything out of the deal, this phrase, this line has been heaved at black women to effectively keep them chained to the community.
I want to warn black women that, as more and more black women leave the feminist community (and black community which ironically spouts the same thing), and decide to do what’s best for them, black women need to go about their business. There is nothing to see here folks.
Instead as you encounter people who try and convince you that whatever you are, whatever happiness that you’ve gained, whatever rights and privileges, heck even the air you breathe is because the feminist or black civil rights movement gave it to you, just walk away.
Just walk away.
Because lines like this that are being spoon fed to black women (even ones who claim to be BWE) are the last attempts to try and grab the clusters of black women who are heading towards the exits of the feminist movement and the “black rights” movements.
Similar to the way fly or a mosquito flies around a room before it’s about to die, these women KNOW that a growing number of black women are saying goodbye to the feminist movement (heck many white women don’t even want to associate with the feminist movement, for good reason, either) These women, who refuse to jump off the sinking titanic are now trying to pull the life rafts from you as you float away to happiness and self-success.
Further…. You don’t OWE THEM A THING!
It seems that many of the “Whatever You Are, We Made You” brigade like to rewrite history. Not only do these women like to rewrite history they like to rewrite it so you will be beholden to their movement and vote/ support/ waste your valuable time on crap that in no way will EVER come back to help you.
- These women like to claim that the feminist movement has *always* been there for black women and that black women were just sapphire bitches who wanted to rip white women down because of their hatred and ultimately female jealousy of white women.
I wrote about this here:
- These women like to pretend that feminist ( similar to black rights) movement intentionally and with caring forethought went out of their way or go out of their way to make sure that black women get anything in return. When really examples of the recent FLOP in the feminist community in respond to the Q Wallis Oscar debacle show that that this has NEVER HAPPENED
- These women like to pretend that if the major players of this movement have ever done anything but used black women as a body count while because of their privilege have used that to harm black women.
- These women like to pretend that because sometime in the past, when feminism actually meant something and wasn’t the FARCE it is today that black women need to gap, bend and spread, because now WE OWE THEM.
- These women like to pretend that black women OWE THEM their time , money, resources, votes, protests, as if black women and feminists sat down and wrote out some intricate pre nup or there was some elaborate wedding ceremony and we are now married to these movements. They want to pretend that black women made a deal and now we have to fulfill our end of the bargain.
- These women ( and men in the case of the black rights movement) like to pretend that because black women inadvertently benefit from a movement that wasn’t designed or thought out for black women that we should now do whatever they say.
- These women like to pretend that the system set up, ever, currently or at some point WILL work for black women, when in fact it will do nothing of the kind.
- These women think they are the leaders of some sort of CULT.
You would be surprised at the level of anger that many women are displaying because black women have said NO to feminism. (and the black rights movement)
Do Not Be Fooled, Do Not Be Alarmed
Most of this anger will be directed at you now because if these movements don’t have an adequate body count and enough people to blindly going along with whatever tripe the decide matters , they will be in dire straits. They need bodies to serve as their flotation devices and they want you to be it.
Further for black women who are realizing that mammying isn’t the way to go I also want you to realize that current system and the way it works now will NEVER benefit black women. I have talked about this ad nauseam and this is why I write this blog because I want black women to get this in their head.
I’ll repeat what I’ve already said about the fatal flaw in the feminist and civil rights movements
… Let’s Play a Game called IF_____, Then_______
Both of these movements operate with the belief that white men have the most power in a “racist and patriarchal society”
The feminist movement complains that white men (I’m italicizing “white” because I want to point out the fact that the feminist movement rarely IF EVER calls out the sexism of black males on black females unless it has to do with NON BLACK WOMEN) have gender privilege….
The civil rights movement complains that white men (I’m underlining men because the civil rights movement has shown time and time again that they will gladly give a pass to racist white women) have the racial privilege and that is the reason why blacks men can’t get ahead. They hold that blacks would equal if the just got rid of racism.
Black women know that in their world race AND gender come into play for them.
Here Comes the if/ then game…
IF in the feminist world/ and civil rights world white women/ black men need only ONE more facet to have “equal” privilege they say white men have (race/ gender), THEN means that CURRENTLY both white women and black men already have some sort of privilege THEMSELVES because White Women and Black MEN BOTH Share privileges because of their RACE AND GENDER, respectively!
By this logic, that to be white you have racial privilege and to be a man you have gender privilege, both white women and black men are not fairing much worse than they claim white men are!
What does it mean in lay terms ?
Well here is where the intersectionality conundrum of the civil rights movement and the feminist movement for black women gets sticky.
This means that if white feminists or black men ever wanted to have full privilege they would have to keep the privilege they already have (race/gender respectively) and both white feminists and black men would have to GAIN gender/ race privilege respectively.
But where does that leave black women in any of these movements and why is it important for black women to realize the system doesn’t work?
Black women need to realize that because they’re black and a woman neither movement that is claiming to care about blacks and women can EVER help them and gain any headway.
White feminist, if you look at it logically couldn’t possibly give up racial privilege and keep the gender privilege they gain because they will still be left short of having both. Black men can’t give up gender privilege and gain racial privilege because they STILL will come up short.
This is why you see stuff like the tepid response to the Onion incident. For black women to have been addressed in the feminist movement would have meant giving up the racial privilege of knowing they would be protected. Just like if black men actually cared about the issues that effect black women in the black community ( large numbers of rape/ domestic violence/ molestation) they would have to give something up.
They would lose any footing and privilege that would get them to their goal !
IF you consider it from this logic, You realize that the feminist movement is positively useless to black women , because of race they don’t have the privilege of benefiting and in the black movement because of gender they don’t have the privilege of benefiting.
Why should You Care?
You should care because at this point, these two movements have no and had no intention of giving black women anything. Sure at one point these movements helped black women by default of having brown skin and a vagina. But it wasn’t on purpose nor intentional. We saw historically how black men in the civil rights era clung to sexism while feminists clung to racial privilege.
At this juncture, you’re now just being used as a BODY COUNT because the system can’t work the way it is unless you only have one disadvantage or the other. NOT BOTH Race and Gender disadvantage.
Bringing it home…
My entire point of this post isn’t to go on and on about privilege or lack thereof. I’ve said a million times it would be insane for anyone to give up their privileges.
BUT, and that’s a big BUT,
Black women have to be smart with the choices they make now. For starters by realizing how the system is fatally flawed to create an interesectionality conundrum for black women black women can start to realize that they are not beholden to ANYONE.
Mostly because the system was never intended for black women to begin with. There is no reason to feel indebted to a system that not only doesn’t help, and never wanted to but feeds of privilege in which other won’t give up. Black women can leave the matrix because once black women realize they were never the intended beneficiaries of these movements there is no longer any need to feel gratitude/ show reverence towards them. Instead black women can assess the situation clearly and see that this is just another show, a façade offering black women temporary respite that can’t logically work.
The bigger picture…
Finally black women can realize they can let go but they can also let go of the desperate need to defend two groups, if you use their logic, have privilege of their own.
There is no need to defend/ help/ waste time on two groups that while complaining about the privilege of white men enjoy the same privileges of being white or men at their leisure. Not only are these groups hypocritical (claiming to hate privilege while still enjoying it) but these same groups that are claiming to be better to be helpful can hurt you when they feel like it and will get off Scott free. (Because in these two worlds racists and sexists are white AND male, not white OR male).
Instead black women can focus on living neutral, rewarding lifestyles that don’t require them to be a mammy, mule or white knight for anyone.
Until Next Time…
I’ve posted this link before, for those who may be interested I’ll post it again
It talks about interesectionality, top down theory, and how the current system is flawed all things I think black women should know about the author enlightened me completely. Enjoy