They won’t be happy until you’ve been stripped of everything

And that should be a terrifying thought for most black women. Instead, I get a sense of complacency because somehow, in some weird world black women have been convinced that they are  “winning” like Charlie Sheen.  Oddly enough the majority of black women don’t see how they’re  being stripped of their femininity and womanhood every day.

This isn’t a new concept either. Plenty of  sane BW have been saying this and yet the lost ones just don’t seem to take the hint. The women warning black women off the path that they’re currently careening off of pshaw and wave away the concerns saying it’s paranoia.

And yet every day I see examples of how feminism is stripping black women of what makes them… women.

There is an article on muslim bushido about not living ideology and living for yourself.

http://muslimbushido.blogspot.com/2013/01/and-band-played-on-21st-century_29.html

 But I can clearly see that many black women haven’t caught on.  Especially considering that there are two separate ideologies being peddled for black women feminists and white women feminists.

Take for example the show Person Of Interest, I only recently started watching the show, but immediately I started noticing some of the comments about Taraji P Henson’s character.  Of course it was from the same sources that are usually willing to throw black women under the bus for their ideology.   Apparently in this week’s episode Carter (Henson’s character) was faced with the proposition of her partners dying yes dying and *some* women commenters felt odd about the fact that she was showing emotion. Yes these women were concerned about the portrayal of the only woman on the show and felt that she was showing too much emotion.

Here’s the scene.

They thought that the character was not being true to her feminist self because she was “a damnsel in distress” and she was “clinging” to her friend John. We all know that’s a big no no in feminist world. Some other women of course in the name of “girl power”  thought it was also terrible that Henson’s character wears makeup and looks pretty.  Their logic is that you don’t have to be a kick ass woman and wear makeup.

In cases like these there are always plenty of black women to cosign this. Black women have easily bought the line that women should hand in their femininity for the sake of being “empowered”.  In some way I think black women honestly believe (despite evidence to the obvious) that “everyone is doing it. *hooray for groupthink ya’ll*

And yet, while black women are signing away their femininity  and while these women are always complaining that black characters dare show any vulnerability (and yes it is always black female characters)  I always  find it funny that these same women watch shows  that  are the exact opposite of what they claim to  want.   I always think back to the shows that white feminists laud like GIRLS or Sex and the City or 30 Rock, Castle and that totes adorb character Liz Lemon (Is that really a name? Dear heaven)

Shows that are always peddled as “empowering”

The women on the show Sex and the City were anything but independent; in fact they were shallow, over sexed, desperate women looking for love in the big city.  The young girls of GIRlS are also shallow selfish and looking for love. And don’t get me started on how much people wuv Liz Lemon.

Or if you want to find a show that is similar watch the show Castle. Kate Beckett, also a homicide detective is beautiful, feminine, vulnerable, nice, and capable of showing emotion.  And many times has been a ‘damsel in distress’.

And yet she is not criticized for not being independent enough, I do not hear any women saying that she is showing too much emotion.

To be quite honest, and I will always be honest with my readers, I really only ever here these complaints when the women in question are black.  Of course black women aren’t granted the privilege of being feminine and feminist. Black women are expected at all times to behave like men. Because black women, of course because of their race are men.   Remember all the blacks are men.

I was reading a comment on a clutch article recently and a black man said this.

January 31, 2013 at 4:03 pm

White women are no longer the spearheads of feminism anymore. They got the sistas for that task now. White women are slick as hell the way they have black women doing all the grunt work for them. Then white women come through and pluck all the good fruit. They have powerful men, they have great careers, they play the feminine position like no other; its like they get the best of both worlds, all without really lifting a finger. They plant the seeds, leave, and comeback the following season, and pluck the fruit. Meanwhile sistas are left complaining about their men being weak, still fighting for those top positions, nothing in their community is being built, maintained, or protected by their men, including themselves, and then the most crushing blow to their self-esteem is the fact that they are portrayed as the stark contrast to white femininity. The more they fight, the more they seem to lose.

It doesn’t matter that the persons saying this is a black man and probably has his own reasons for saying it, he’s absolutely correct.  Black women have now become the enforcers/ scapegoats of feminism. What do I mean by that? Black women and the relatively few roles they’ve been given have been used to enforce feminism (which black women willingly oblige) meanwhile because they are the ones who stand out, (while white women enjoy playing the feminine roles)  they are the ones who end up looking stupid.

It’s downright  hazardous to black women stupid enough to fall the lines and  for support crap like this.

Another woman on another website lauded Hensons character on POI and she said  this in regards to the character being seen as “wishy washy”.

Good insights but we aren’t being given this motivation. I want them to explain this back and forth. Carter is too smart and capable for this portrayal. Strong female characters can easily get type cast/marginalized and she was SO good in season ONE. 

This woman is so busy salivating and wetting herself over the prospect of a “strong female lead” that she doesn’t see that the Character of Carter has already been “marginalized”.

In her world she doesn’t seem to realize that the reason why Carter is generally portrayed as  “strong female character” is because she is black.  Carter is being admired for being strong. as strong as the men. But the only reason why this is happening is because she is black.

Further, in what world, does showing emotion, being feminine/dressing pretty, showing emotion, caring about your friends, equal weakness?

I guess that happens in the white feminist world.

Because in this world  they don’t even see that she’s being treated portrayed as “strong” because she’s a black women. In this world they don’t realize their own hypocrisy as they sit down and watch Kate Becket on Castle and says she’s empowering while expecting the character of Carter to essentially behave in traditionally “masculine” ways.

In this world white feminists get to have their cake (enjoy characters they truly wish they were like liz lemon) while sacrificing black women to the Strong female role.  Also, while these women are so terrified that Carter might get weepy, I never hear anything about the other women who come on the show who are not strong females, and are still well liked.

Anyone want to guess their race?

But the fun of having race privilege is that you can sacrifice the pawns and stand back and watch the bloodbath. In this case black women got sacrificed for a cause and white feminists get good portrayals and they didn’t have to do a damn thing and their image is still intact.

Well played, feminists, well played.

Meanwhile on the “woman of color” front.

Another article on clutch highlighted a commercial with Latina, Anjelah Johnson and her bon qui qui  character in a new  commercial.

Of course when intereviewed Anjelah had this to say,

“In a 2010 New York Times profile, [Johnson] said: “Deep down inside, I’m really a black girl stuck in a Mexican girl’s body.” She then went on to mock an audience member’s disapproval of the Bon Qui Qui character: “Once I was doing Bon Qui Qui in Miami, and this black girl was in the audience and she yelled out, ‘That’s not funny!’ which was really funny because she sounded exactly like the character I was playing.” So, yeah.”

I always find it odd that whenever a bad stereotype of black women comes out (a la “all my babies mamas) black women are quick to say that it’s an “actual representation.” And yet I wouldn’t be so quick to claim the degenerates of the black race as their own.  Because when it’s time for other people to explain bad behavior the claim they’re “acting black” this woman of color is quick to write off her stereotypical role as one of black women. Because of course that’s what black women act like. Black women while being politically correct are actually becoming the face of all of the bad acting degenerates ( and strong women memes)  meanwhile women of color come out unscathed.

Black would be wise to ignore and subdue people who want to claim the bad acting black women. Because black women are already the scapegoats.

I don’t know if anyone heard or remembers the video that came out about a year or so ago an Asian woman in the CSU LA? Library who was studying and getting mad because someone was being too loud. It was automatically assumed that the rowdy person in the library was a black woman. And by the general public she was called a hoodrat.. etc etc.

There was not even a question that the faceless woman in the video was someone who was another race. So not only are black women perceived as non-feminine men, they are also now considered hood rats.

Every day that black women continue to play inside the Matrix of “black feminism” and forget about the laws of interesectionality, every time black “feminists” join hands with women who can never give up their race privilege if they hope to be “equal” to white men, they dig themselves into a grave and take you down with them.

Terrified Now?

Ps this post is part of series the next one is

What do Olivia Pope and Honey Boo Boo  have in common?

https://notyourgirlfriday.wordpress.com/2013/02/10/what-do-honey-boo-boo-olivia-pope-have-in-common/

Previous Post in series if you haven’t read it

The black Feminists And White Feminists Are Angry again, I guess I’ll be the one to Point Out the Obvious

https://notyourgirlfriday.wordpress.com/2013/02/10/the-black-feminists-and-white-feminists-are-angry-again-i-guess-ill-be-the-one-to-point-out-the-obvious-again/

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12 thoughts on “They won’t be happy until you’ve been stripped of everything

  1. It amazes me what some purposely blind Black women will co-sign. SMH. I had no idea that people were upset that Carter wears makeup and has Human emotions just like everyone else on planet Earth. How Absurd! What kind of person would not react emotionally when someone they care about and consider a good friend, who has saved their life multiple times and the life of their child as well, was about to die?!? This line of thinking goes beyond trying to take away the femininity and womanhood of Black women, they are aiming for our very humanity.

    The real reason it’s okay for Beckett to be Human, and therefore likable, is because she’s White, and in their racist minds White=Human, non-White (particularly Black)=sub-Human. Also, WW in general feel incredibly threatened by attractive BW. That’s why they use the media to encourage/brainwash us to be fat, dress manly/tacky and behave in ways that destroy our collective stock.

    I believe I have been asked at least 200 times over the years, by WW only (no one else seems to care), “why do I always wear dresses and skirts?” My answer: Because that’s what I like to wear. Now, why oh why would they care what I wear on my own body? I think you know the answer.

    I have watched Person of Interest since episode one and I never would have guessed that such a ridiculous debate could have erupted about a fictional character…Whose not sleeping with a WM, that is. LOL. The BW co-signing this kind of anti-BW non-sense need to go sit their butts down somewhere and drink a strong cup of STFU. They are almost as foolish as the BW who regularly co-sign anti-BW hate speech by BM on FB. I guess such women are so desperate for acceptance, they’ll cut their own throats (and ours) to get it.

    • Yes, I always here black women complaining about not being seen a “strong.” Hell there were some complaining that Kerry Washington in Django Unchained was a “damsel in distress” I was thinking are you serious, bw are always STRONG but are never damsels. GET a CLUE.

      Yes some were complaining that carter was wearing too much makeup. And the scene in the episode where (2×12?) she dressed up and went to that bar to get the mans dna. Some had a problem with. I was thinking the same thing. I thought they were friends? That didn’t even make any sense.
      And a few even thought it bad that Reese had to tell fusco to “get her out of here” when he had that bomb vest on. Supposedly that made her a damsel in distress? IDGI.

      This line of thinking goes beyond trying to take away the femininity and womanhood of Black women, they are aiming for our very humanity.

      THIS! Pretty much sums it all up.
      Hell they aren’t happy with bw being the mammy’s. Black women have to be reduced to NOTHING. Only then will people be satisfied.

      The real reason it’s okay for Beckett to be Human, and therefore likable, is because she’s White, and in their racist minds White=Human, non-White (particularly Black)=sub-Human. Also, WW in general feel incredibly threatened by attractive BW. That’s why they use the media to encourage/brainwash us to be fat, dress manly/tacky and behave in ways that destroy our collective stock.

      And of course black women are always signing up first to be the fat/unnnatractive mammy. It’s really sad.

      I have watched Person of Interest since episode one and I never would have guessed that such a ridiculous debate could have erupted about a fictional character…Whose not sleeping with a WM, that is. LOL.

      I know! Oh and speaking of sleeping with him. There were A LOT of people who were afraid that she had gone all out to get him out of jail because she was in love with him. And people seemed TERRIFIED of that.

      the BW co-signing this kind of anti-BW non-sense need to go sit their butts down somewhere and drink a strong cup of STFU. They are almost as foolish as the BW who regularly co-sign anti-BW hate speech by BM on FB. I guess such women are so desperate for acceptance, they’ll cut their own throats (and ours) to get it.

      Preach!!

      • “There were A LOT of people who were afraid that she had gone all out to get him out of jail because she was in love with him. And people seemed TERRIFIED of that.”

        This does not surprise me at all. When I was with my last serious boyfriend (before meeting my husband) a WW, he barely knew, told him that he needed to stop chasing after me, because it was obvious (to her) that I wasn’t into him, and that BW only want “brothas”. We had a good laugh about it, but it did make me wonder how many WM have bought that lie, and how many WW have told it.

        The fans worried about Reese and Carter falling in love or lust are stressing themselves out for nothing. The show is on CBS. And the shows’ writers have been using that fixer chick Reese saved in season one (played by Paige Turco) as a romantic buffer. She comes back periodically to remind the audience that Reese has a WW he could plow, if he felt so inclined. 😆

        • wow, that’s seriously messed up.

          I know. I don’t think they will go there with the reese/carter relationship. Bascially thought the same thing you did. It’s on mainstream television and I don’t really see that happen much. Not on a channel like CBS.

          She comes back periodically to remind the audience that Reese has a WW he could plow, if he felt so inclined.

          Lol! Am I the only one who doesn’t like the character Zoe? her hyper sexuality and desperation is a put off.

  2. I don’t dislike Zoe. I never gave Zoe much thought really, except to note how unlike Reese’s lost love she is. If they were going to bring in someone to be his love interest, they could have at least given her a “girl next door” personality. The funny thing is, Carter is the girl next door… with a badge. LOL. And you’re right, hyper-sexual / desperate is not attractive at all. And Reese is not written in a way that would make him seem the type of man to go for that. Presently, I’m okay with Zoe popping up here and there, because if they get rid of her they’ll just bring in another WW to take her place anyway. I think a snowball in hell has a better chance than a Reese + Carter hookup.

    CBS also owns The CW. That is why Bonnie, on the Vampire Diaries, is basically a mule for the other characters. Don’t know if you’ve seen the show, but she had a very short -lived relationship with her BFF’s brother Jeremy. But Jeremy cheated on her with a freakin’ ghost. LOL. Most ridiculous storyline EVER. LOL. What normal Human male would pass up a real live, gorgeous girl, who actually wants him to romance something he can never touch? SMH. I stopped watching about two years ago.

    • That’s true I guess.I suppose I’d rather suffer through Zoe than some other unnamed actress.
      I agree, Carter pretty much is the girl next door. I never considered that before but you’re right.

      I had no idea that the CW was onwed by CBS that makes so much sense.
      I don’t the show but I do read spoilers. I have heard from numerous people who do watch it that Bonnie is a mule
      like you said and they don’t give her any story lines. Which is too bad because I like the actress.

  3. You know, this is just more proof of the hatred that Black women have to face from these White women, but people want so badly to be convinced that White women are non-racist little innocents that they keep getting away with it.

    That clutch letter from that Black man, is typical of the garbage from them. Yes he critisized White women, but he also tried to make his group the victims AS USUAL with that crap about Black women complaining about weak Black men. Well pal, the FACT of the matter is that when it comes to protecting, loving, & providing for Black women/girls, Black men ARE weak and have been forever and have NO interest in changing that.

    And I keep saying, Black women have been indoctrinated, threatened, programmed, etc FOREVER that looking out for their own interests/caring about themselves is “wrong/bad”, hence the co-signing of actions/behavior not in their own interests. Black women have to be taught now that it is NOT wrong for them to be what they are-women. Soft, vulnerable women who dress pretty, show emotion, etc. There was NOTHING wrong with how Taraji’s character responded to that tough situation. People who are not Black women/girls just hated it because they hate Black women/girls and want to deny their femininity/humanity, and Black women are have a problem with it are only expressing what they have been taught/indocrinated with forever, sigh.

    • You know, this is just more proof of the hatred that Black women have to face from these White women, but people want so badly to be convinced that White women are non-racist little innocents that they keep getting away with it.

      There is a meme that goes around in society that white women (especially a feminist who everyone is convinced *for whatever reason*) CAN”T be racist. It’s literally as if it never occurs to them. Of course the idea it that because white men have more privilege than them ONLY white men are racist. It’s similar to how black men in the black community never check the pure sexism because since they can claim to be oppressed by white men they too get away with it.

      That clutch letter from that Black man, is typical of the garbage from them. Yes he critisized White women, but he also tried to make his group the victims AS USUAL with that crap about Black women complaining about weak Black men. Well pal, the FACT of the matter is that when it comes to protecting, loving, & providing for Black women/girls, Black men ARE weak and have been forever and have NO interest in changing that.

      Oh of course I don’t know why men are even ON that site. The clearly don’t like black women and the only things they ever say is nasty. My only point in quoting him is that he makes a point about how black women have pretty much become the drudges of feminsm and yet never get any rewards for their slave labor. Hell if anything black women’s image has gotten worse.

      And I keep saying, Black women have been indoctrinated, threatened, programmed, etc FOREVER that looking out for their own interests/caring about themselves is “wrong/bad”, hence the co-signing of actions/behavior not in their own interests. Black women have to be taught now that it is NOT wrong for them to be what they are-women. Soft, vulnerable women who dress pretty, show emotion, etc. There was NOTHING wrong with how Taraji’s character responded to that tough situation.

      This! I see every day black women think they have to be STRONG. Every time I hear a comment about TPH character Carter the greatest compliment they think they can give is that she is STRONG. I’m sorry but this is NOT a feat black women have always been portrayed as STRONG i don’t need help I can live by myself women. See the movie precious.

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  7. Late to the party but totally agree with this post. I saw that Alexander Wang video and was very disappointed. Will not be purchasing any of his merchandise. I don’t care how many Black models he uses.

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